tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-56139302903080438492024-02-07T11:36:55.317+08:00Mother Knows BestArticles about health, relationship,parenting, cooking and beauty tipsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger78125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-50942384651764901072010-02-11T08:56:00.009+08:002010-02-11T09:58:19.650+08:00Tips And Ideas On What To Wear On Valentines Day Date<div style="text-align: justify;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhs3Jh6-YeJrsXqV7WAm9x1jJoGHHXLvHEHO5-8MjY1KXEzqxP-oIhp8nMOF2w0HeMMY_ern74KZmCd4tZ0_pRABYvEpVA6WS5xvlngT_lm9DDnnDo5VgO1apBNMXd4F0GkTxskyxXkc1g/s1600-h/valentines+card.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 214px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhs3Jh6-YeJrsXqV7WAm9x1jJoGHHXLvHEHO5-8MjY1KXEzqxP-oIhp8nMOF2w0HeMMY_ern74KZmCd4tZ0_pRABYvEpVA6WS5xvlngT_lm9DDnnDo5VgO1apBNMXd4F0GkTxskyxXkc1g/s320/valentines+card.JPG" alt="a photo" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5436793745761674386" title="Tips And Ideas On What To Wear On Valentines Day Date" border="0" /></a>Valentines Day is in the air. Most women are looking forward for a great and romantic date with their love ones. Whether your new boyfriend wants to take you on a sexy date or your husband wants to treat you to an elegant evening dinner, you’ll need to dress for love!<br /><br />Use these <a href="http://888umi.blogspot.com/2009/02/10-valentines-day-commandments.html">tips and ideas</a> below to figure out what to wear on St. Valentine’s Day to make the holiday of love full of fashionable fun.<br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Choosing Your Color Wisely – Why Not Red, Pink or Hearts</span><br />Nothing says Valentine’s Day like wearing red or pink. While these colors may be too bold for everyday wear, they are more than acceptable for the holiday of love. When choosing your perfect red or pink outfit, think about your skin tone and hair color. There are thousands of shades of both colors, allowing you to wear one which will compliment your skin. Those with dark hair can get away with bolder colors of red. Those with light hair should stick with cooler shades of red or pink. However, those with red hair should steer clear of red altogether and choose a nice light pink for the holiday. If you can fathom wearing either red or pink in your outfit, consider celebrating the holiday with accessories. Add a red scarf to your black suit or a pink belt to your little back dress.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Get Flirty In a Skirt</span><br />If you want to look like you’re up for a little flirting fun, think about choosing a skirt for your Valentine’s Date. Since this holiday is extremely romantic, it’s a great idea for you to embrace your feminine style and dress like a lady. A great red, pink or black dress is ideal. However, a great A-line or pencil skirt can make just as great of an impression. Pair it with a form fitting top, high heels and soft jewelry for maximum fashion style.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgoIV9gM2xIB6xCM0Y-mj6Um7-lZt5PwyaZ6TcbWYknK02Ztil8gnhHsmRku31UIzaYP9Qe8GK5DF1teKdCAOiXAhyJU4pa1C6nF3zvLJhfifc_3OGvULa2luWNa9ZhbMNVwGTS-_0dIx4/s1600-h/valentines+day+dating.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 208px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgoIV9gM2xIB6xCM0Y-mj6Um7-lZt5PwyaZ6TcbWYknK02Ztil8gnhHsmRku31UIzaYP9Qe8GK5DF1teKdCAOiXAhyJU4pa1C6nF3zvLJhfifc_3OGvULa2luWNa9ZhbMNVwGTS-_0dIx4/s320/valentines+day+dating.JPG" alt="a picture" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5436793673089275506" title="Tips And Ideas On What To Wear On Valentines Day Date" border="0" /></a><span style="font-weight: bold;">Sexy Lingerie Makes A Statem</span><span style="font-weight: bold;">e</span><span style="font-weight: bold;">nt – Even if it is Just for You</span><br />Whether you plan on showing it off or not, lingerie is a “must” on a Valentine’s Date. Lingerie automatically makes a woman feel more feminine, sexy and attractive. Thus, it’s a great idea to buy something new to wear under your clothing for a romantic date on Valentine’s Day. Even if you don’t allow anyone else to sneak a peek, you’ll feel sexier just by having it on.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Makeup & Hairstyles for Romantic Evenings</span><br />Valentine’s Date makeup should be suited for the activity. For example, if your date is taking you on a romantic ice skating date in New York City, there’s no need for full makeup and extravagant hairstyles. Instead, choose to keep it simple and sweet with rosy cheeks, glossy lips and a neutral eye. Keep your hair simple and romantic by curling it into soft curls and pulling it into a ponytail.<br /><br />However, if your date is in the evening think about using a smoky eye makeup technique, red gloss on the lips and rosy cheeks. For extra shimmer, skip the glitter (it’s only reserved f<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzQTGpyANPU3THkzbN6cRqJGjEEcYcOvWhGBoy6QqoZSThSWOTxOixG1R7VK3s9-q3g0V1QqcLEB106QkaAlgPOD0BQRxZmSGB02y6q2x7n9znN-aYfBu_EhDQVHdUtyxWIl1_bvYZrSw/s1600-h/valentines+day+bagaccessories.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 0pt 10px 10px; float: right; cursor: pointer; width: 246px; height: 288px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzQTGpyANPU3THkzbN6cRqJGjEEcYcOvWhGBoy6QqoZSThSWOTxOixG1R7VK3s9-q3g0V1QqcLEB106QkaAlgPOD0BQRxZmSGB02y6q2x7n9znN-aYfBu_EhDQVHdUtyxWIl1_bvYZrSw/s320/valentines+day+bagaccessories.JPG" alt="an image" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5436793531319525522" title="Tips And Ideas On What To Wear On Valentines Day Date" border="0" /></a>or teens and young girls) and instead use a champagne body shimmer on your cheeks and cleavage. In a pinch you can substitute the genuine body shimmer for shimmering white eye shadow or highlighting cream. An evening date requires more sophisticated hair so choose a fancy up-do, a simple bun or loose and flowing curls.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Clothing To Avoid – Keep it Elegant</span><br />Just because it’s Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you should pull out the hearts and cupid imprinted turtleneck or the homemade holiday sweatshirt. Instead, choose to be festive in a more subtle manner. You can quickly add a sense of holiday fun to an outfit my using metallic accessories to celebrate. A scarf with a metallic stripe in it or even a shirt with a silver pinstripe can instantly scream “holiday” while still allowing you to look classy and in fashion.<br /><br /><br /><br /></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-39209070104702030202009-12-06T15:24:00.005+08:002009-12-06T15:36:24.307+08:00Developmental Milestone For A Three Year Old Child<div style="text-align: justify; font-family: arial;">We have learned some of the general developmental milestones for 2 years old child in my previous post, today we will look into the milestones of a three year old child. While rearing a child at any age is no snap, things should get easier during the third year. Most 3-year-old can be reasoned with. They will take turns and may even share toys. A child in this age group will help the parents get him or her dressed. Most are toilet trained during the day, although it is common for an occasional "accident" while busy playing. In previous generations, moms and dads learned what to expect of their child from their mother, grandmother or another family member. Today, most families are so scattered that parents do not have this help available. Therefore, do not hesitate to ask any questions you might have about your child's growth and development during the three year checkup. This is the reason for regular well-child exams.<br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><span id="fullpost"><br /></span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Parenting and Behavioural</span><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><ul><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >The 3-year-old will ask more questions than a district attorney. Nothing is sacred and some questions will throw you for a loop!</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Continue reading books to your child.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Arrange times for safe running and exploring outdoors.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Playmates are important. Allow your child to experience interaction with peers. Three-year-olds are usually quite social and enjoy being with other 3-year-olds. This can be accomplished in a preschool, play group or just having another child over for a few hours.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >It is normal for children this age to have imaginary friends. Parents can sometimes use the youngster's imaginary "playmate" to their advantage (like getting your 3-year-old to do something you want them to do.)</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Limit television viewing. Do not use the TV as a baby sitter or as a substitute for interaction with your child. Watch children's programs with your child when possible.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Do not worry if the child becomes curious about body parts. This is normal at this age. Always use the correct terms for genitals.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Children this age begin to recognize gender differences and will correctly say "I am a girl" or "I am a boy."</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Discipline should be firm and consistent, but loving and understanding. Praise your child for his or her good behavior and accomplishments.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Three-year-olds like to do things for themselves.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >The 3-year-old does not understand "tongue-in-cheek" comments and can not always tell when a parent is joking. For example, never threaten to leave a child at the store when he or she misbehaves.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Your child may continue to use a security object (such as a blanket, favorite stuffed toy, etc.). This is normal and the youngster will give up the item when he or she is ready.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Keep family outings short and simple. Children have a short attention span at this age and lengthy activities will cause them to become irritable and tired.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >The question of preschool usually comes up now. Daycare has already been established for a family when both parents work outside the home. Even for moms who stay at home with their child, preschool a few mornings a week can be helpful. It gives mom a welcome break and provides the child an opportunity to meet new friends.The success or failure of preschool will depend upon the child's maturity and the quality of the preschool. For example, if your child seems anxious and dependent away from home, perhaps he or she is not ready for preschool.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >If you are expecting another baby, discuss with your child's physician how to prepare your 3-year-old.</span></li></ul><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Discipline</span><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><ul><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Encourage your 3-year-old to make choices whenever possible, but the choices should be limited to those you can live with ("red shirt or green shirt.") Never ask a toddler an open question ("Do you want to take a bath") unless you are willing to accept the answer.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Use the two "I's" of discipline (ignore or isolate) rather than the two "S's" (shouting or spanking). When disciplining, try to separate the child and his or her behavior ("I love you, but I do not like it when you touch the VCR.")</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Provide alternatives. "No, you cannot play with the telephone, but you can play with these blocks."</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Avoid power struggles. No one wins! The 3-year-old still uses temper tantrums as a weapon. Respond to this behavior with the two I's of discipline - ignore or isolate (time out!).</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Discipline should be consistent. Do not make threats that you can not carry out. If you say you are going to do something, do it!</span></li></ul><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Development</span><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><ul><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Can name pictures in a book</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Names at least one color.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Knows his or her own name, age and sex.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Begins to use pronouns.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Able to put on his or her own shirt, but will need help with shoes and buttons.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >May be able to ride a tricycle.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Can jump in place and stand briefly on one foot.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Can (unfortunately!) open doors.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >More than 50 percent of the child's speech is intelligible. There may be temporary episodes of stuttering during this time.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Understands such words as "cold," "tired," "hungry." Comprehends the meaning of "on or under", and "bigger or smaller."</span></li></ul><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Oral Health</span><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><ul><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Supervise brushing twice a day with a small amount of fluoridated toothpaste.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Take your 3-year-old to the dentist, if you have not already done so.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Limit juice and sweets.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Continue giving a fluoride supplement if your drinking water is not fluoridated. Some dentists recommend fluoride be continued through age 8; others recommend continuing through age 12 or 16. Check with your pediatrician and dentist.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Stop pacifier use</span></li></ul><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Feeding</span><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><ul><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Appetite is perhaps a shade better than it was a few months ago, but it is still not what most parents (or grandparents) think it should be. "My child will not eat," is a familiar complaint heard at the three year checkup. Remember, feeding problems may arise if parents make their child eat more than the child needs to, or shows too much concern in what the youngster eats.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >The 3-year-old should pretty much be able to feed himself or herself.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >During meal time, the 3-year-old is sometimes very demanding of parent's attention and may also dawdle!</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Avoid nuts, hard candy, uncut grapes, hot dogs or raw vegetables. Control sweets and avoid junk food.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Eat dinner together as a family whenever possible.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Begin to teach proper table manners and encourage conversation during family meals.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Turn the TV off during meals.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Make sure your child's caregiver is following your feeding instructions.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Sleeping</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >An afternoon nap is usually still needed by the 3-year-old.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Fears of the dark, thunder, lightning, etc. are quite common at this age.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Maintain a consistent bedtime and bedtime routine. Using a night light, security blanket or toy are all ways to help lessen nighttime fears.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Read to your child when possible before "lights out."</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Nightmares can wake a child up from sleep. The nightmares can be triggered by changes or stress. Reassure your child and put him or her back to bed.</span></li></ul><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Toilet Training</span><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><ul><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Many 3-year-olds are trained during the day but still do not stay dry at night. Others are completely trained. Remember, the age a child uses the bathroom by himself or herself varies and it is based only on a child's readiness to be trained and the positive attitude of the parents.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Avoid putting too many demands on the child or shaming him about wearing diapers. Instead, let your child no how proud and happy you are about any potty successes.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Some children may postpone having a bowel movement as a way to manipulate their parents or because they are busy doing something else. Try not to make an issue of this</span></li></ul><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Illness</span><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><ul><li><span id="fullpost" style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" >Your 3-year-old may continue to experience respiratory infections, such as colds, ear infections and sinus infections. These frequent ailments often become frustrating for parents. Unfortunately, most illnesses are unavoidable, especially if your child is in preschool or has older siblings who bring the colds home from school.</span></li><li><span id="fullpost" style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" >When your child is ill, the pediatrician will determine whether antibiotics are needed. Remember, most illnesses at this age are viral, which means antibiotics will not shorten the course of the illness</span></li></ul><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ><span style="font-weight: bold;">Immunization</span><br /><br /></span><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Since immunization schedules vary from doctor to doctor, and new vaccines may have been introduced,it is always best to seek the advice of your child's health care provider concerning your child's vaccine schedule.</span><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><ul><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Normally, no immunizations are given at this checkup unless your child is behind in the immunization schedule.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Hepatitis A (HepA) may be administered at this visit for children living in selected states.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Annual flu vaccines may be recommended for children with chronic illnesses like asthma and heart defects. Check with your doctor.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >Some physicians at 3years do a hemoglobin or hematocrit determination to check for anemia ("low blood"). This requires a small poke on the finger to obtain a drop of blood. A urinalysis will also be done if the child is toilet trained to check for kidney and bladder problems.</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >By this age, most children have received the following immunizations:</span><br /></li></ul><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ></span><ul style="text-align: center;"><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >3 doses of Hepatitis B vaccine</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >4 doses of DTaP vaccine</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >4 doses of HIB vaccine</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >1 dose of the MMR vaccine</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >1 dose of the Chickenpox vaccine</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >4 doses of the Pneumococcal vaccine</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >3 doses of the Inactivated Polio Vaccine</span></li><li><span style=";font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >3 doses of the rotavirus vaccine</span></li></ul><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /></span><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-weight: bold;font-family:arial;font-size:100%;" id="fullpost" >MERRY CHISTMAS AND A PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR TO EVERYONE!!!</span><br /></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-4894212288008565042009-12-02T04:12:00.006+08:002009-12-02T04:19:16.667+08:00General Developmental Milestones For Toddlers<div style="text-align: justify;">My daughter, Alisha is now 2 years old. She can speak few clear words in a sentence and is also picking up words quite faster lately from her favorite cartoon movies. Though she was a bit slow in her language development but now she is catching up.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Observing the developmental milestones of our children is an amazing feeling of fulfillment for a mother. You just imagine when you first hold your child in your arms those delicate and small body can now walk and eat by themselves and speak for themselves. Such a great accomplishment! However, children develop at their own pace, so it's impossible to tell exactly when yours will learn a given skill. Below are the developmental milestones that will give you a general idea of the changes you can expect as your child gets older, but don't be alarmed if your child takes a slightly different course.<br /></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><span style="font-weight: bold; font-style: italic;">For Years Old</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Social and Emotional</span><br /><br />* Imitates behavior of others, especially adults and older children<br />* More aware of herself as separate from others<br />* More excited about company of other children<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Emotional</span><br /><br />* Begins to show defiant behavior<br />* Separation anxiety increases toward midyear then fades<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Cognitive</span><br /><br /><br />* Finds objects even when hidden under two or three covers<br />* Begins to sort by shapes and colors<br />* Begins make-believe play<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Language</span><br /><br />* Points to object or picture when it's named for him<br />* Recognizes names of familiar people, objects, and body parts<br />* Says several single words (by 15 to 18 months)<br />* Uses simple phrases (by 18 to 24 months)<br />* Uses 2- to 4-word sentences<br />* Follows simple instructions<br />* Repeats words overheard in conversation<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Movement</span><br /><br />* Walks alone<br />* Pulls toys behind her while walking<br />* Carries large toy or several toys while walking<br />* Begins to run<br />* Stands on tiptoe<br />* Kicks a ball<br />* Climbs onto and down from furniture unassisted<br />* Walks up and down stairs holding on to support<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Hand and Finger Skills</span><br /><br />* Scribbles on his or her own<br />* Turns over container to pour out contents<br />* Builds tower of four blocks or more<br />* Might use one hand more often than the other<br /><br /></span><div style="text-align: center; color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-style: italic;"><span id="fullpost">For 3 years old onwards next posting...</span><br /></div><span id="fullpost"><br /></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-59454422137736277482009-09-07T15:56:00.004+08:002009-09-07T16:20:21.898+08:00Teen Who Cries Blood Gets Help From Experts<div style="text-align: justify;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwJ5NXlFc04lECJmqtND_sGxxN-avJyT_qRoq3nBuiMPlWRgSeTbnBRlW6gz4ZM7_BOkUXdDvYdPKsTNx0q8aTt-F_70spw3w-7GtoBmFCwFhkmp8oHDd48sP_1238l4Bf8HG4I4fb0To/s1600-h/tear.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 199px; height: 160px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhwJ5NXlFc04lECJmqtND_sGxxN-avJyT_qRoq3nBuiMPlWRgSeTbnBRlW6gz4ZM7_BOkUXdDvYdPKsTNx0q8aTt-F_70spw3w-7GtoBmFCwFhkmp8oHDd48sP_1238l4Bf8HG4I4fb0To/s320/tear.JPG" alt="a picture" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5378634537492714194" title="Teen Who Cries Blood Gets Help From Experts" border="0" /></a>Hello guys its been a month since i have not updated my blog as you know am schooling now and quite busy between my school and family. But i was so touched when i opened up my dashboard and found out that i have 24 comments to be moderated. Wow! you really amazed me guys and thank you very much for constantly reading my blog.<br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />So today, i would like to share this rare story of a young boy who cries blood.<br /></div><span id="fullpost"><br /><b></b><span style="font-weight: bold;">(CNN) -- Calvino Inman </span>had just stepped out of the shower one evening in May when a glimpse of his reflection in the mirror caused him to panic. "I looked up and saw myself, and I thought I was going to die," says the 15-year-old from Rockwood, Tennessee. His eyes were streaming tears of blood.<br /><br />Inman's mother, Tammy Mynatt, says she immediately rushed him to the emergency room, but by the time they arrived, the bleeding had stopped. Doctors couldn't see what the family was trying to explain. They returned home completely perplexed. When the bloody tears returned a few days later while Inman was on a camping trip, he was rushed back to the hospital.<br /><br />Mynatt hoped that once doctors finally witnessed the phenomenon, there would be answers. But that wasn't the case. "The people at the hospital said they had never seen anything like it," Mynatt recalls. She says her son underwent an MRI, a CT scan and an ultrasound, but none of the tests had abnormal results. "'We don't know how to stop it,'" Mynatt remembers being told by doctors. "It just has to run its course."<br /><br />Dr. Barrett G. Haik, director of the University of Tennessee's Hamilton Eye Institute, says there is an answer, sort of. He says "crying blood," a condition called haemolacria, is common in people who have experienced extreme trauma or who have recently had a serious head injury. But a case such as Inman's is still a medical mystery. "What's really rare is to have a child like this," Haik says. "Only once every several years do you see someone with no obvious cause."<br /><br />Haik and a team of researchers published a 2004 study in the Journal of the American Society of Ophthalmic Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery looking specifically at children who developed unexplained, spontaneous episodes of bloody tears between February 1992 and January 2003. Only four cases were recorded.<br /><br />Because of the rarity of the condition, experts anticipate Inman will have multiple tests from a variety of specialists, including hematologists (blood specialists), ophthalmologists (eye specialists) and otolaryngologists (ear, nose and throat specialists).<br /><br />Dr. James C. Flemming, also an ophthalmologist at the Hamilton Eye Institute, has been in touch with Mynatt and her son. He is reviewing Inman's medical records for possible treatment.<br /><br />Flemming says complications to look for include blood clots, a growth or tumor near the eye, or even a simple infection. He also says the culprit could be something so tiny that none of the standard tests would pick it up. "It's a very hard thing to estimate," Flemming says. "You may have to watch expectedly for other symptoms to show up."<br /><br />Inman's analysis would also include a psychological evaluation to rule out the possibility that the bloody tears were faked. "When you can't find an origin, you can't eliminate any of the possibilities" Haik explains. He says there have been cases where children seeking attention have found creative ways to simulate haemolacriatic symptoms.<br /><br />Still, Mynatt and her son are relieved to at least have more guidance. In an interview with CNN affiliate WATE, Mynatt was near tears herself explaining her frustration: "I just truly want somebody to say they've seen this and they can help us."<br /><br />And that's at least one reassurance Flemming and his team of experts at the Hamilton Eye Institute can offer. "We get more positive talk now than negative. It really feels like there's hope," Mynatt says, relieved.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />But still, the possibility remains that after endless tests, the underlying cause may never be found. In all four cases Haik examined previously, the bleeding stopped on its own.<br /><br />"As physicians, that's disconcerting, because we like to have the answers," Haik admits. Moreover, he says he knows from previous experience that the toll of not knowing is much worse for patients. "I could always see the fear in their faces because no matter what we studied, we couldn't find an answer."<br /></div><br /></span><input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><!--Session data--><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden"><div id="refHTML"></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-75814078094527112952009-08-05T16:42:00.000+08:002009-08-05T16:53:52.577+08:00Is Anesthesia Related To Learning Disabilities?<div style="text-align: justify;">According to Robert Preidt exposure to anesthesia during a Cesarean delivery doesn't increase the risk of learning disabilities in children, says a new study.<br /><br />"We found that the incidence of learning disabilities was equal between children who were delivered vaginally and those who were delivered via C-section but with general anesthesia," study leader Dr. Juraj Sprung, an anesthesiologist at the Mayo Clinic, said in a news release from Mayo.<br /></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br />Sprung and his colleagues analyzed the medical and school IQ records of 5,320 children born between 1976 and 1982 to mothers in Olmsted County, Minn. Not only did they find that anesthesia use during delivery posed no threat to the babies, but the researchers also determined that babies whose mothers had received an epidural anesthetic (which numbs the lower part of the body) were much less likely to have learning disabilities later in life.<br /><br />The risk was reduced by about 40 percent compared to children delivered vaginally and those delivered via cesarean section but without general anesthesia," Sprung said.<br /><br />The findings from the study are preliminary and shouldn't prompt any changes to medical practice, said co-author and Mayo anesthesiologist Dr. Randall Flick.<br /><br />"What we've found is an association between two things," he said. "One is the way a child was delivered, either vaginally or under regional or general anesthesia. The other is a difference in the incidence of learning disabilities as the child attended school. It's important to recognize there may be other factors that impact learning disabilities."<br /><br />A report on the study is in the August issue of Anesthesiology.<br /><br />SOURCE: Mayo Clinic, news release, July 2009 <br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-73814646960334348212009-07-31T22:35:00.004+08:002009-07-31T22:52:34.344+08:00Beauty Tips For Eyeliners : How To Get An Easy, Everyday Defining Look<div style="text-align: justify;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivQklF-YZN2kAiA4pjH3bi30l5JxvIo8gNkR4ua36tUZqQOZss-wcnvGIcBM2ai9ffJ7OBMCKHCxXvCxO7swWtUeyqn45EAJFFZIdtQNGujDi2RS93T6jdZpFUNuqYPS04-p9mHz1kXSs/s1600-h/make+up.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 250px; height: 250px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEivQklF-YZN2kAiA4pjH3bi30l5JxvIo8gNkR4ua36tUZqQOZss-wcnvGIcBM2ai9ffJ7OBMCKHCxXvCxO7swWtUeyqn45EAJFFZIdtQNGujDi2RS93T6jdZpFUNuqYPS04-p9mHz1kXSs/s320/make+up.JPG" alt="a picture" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5364635843094863138" title="Beauty Tips For Eyeliners : How To Get An Easy, Everyday Defining Look" border="0" /></a>Eyeliner is the bane of existence for many a beauty conscious woman. There is a distinct trick to the art of applying eyeliners in such a manner as to not end up with that permanently surprised look which may be somewhat disconcerting to those with whom you converse. Some have taken to the application of liquid eyeliner only to find that they end up with black smudges in the creases underneath their eyes.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Fortunately, tips and techniques for the successful application of eye liner abound, and if you follow just a few of them, you will give your eyes that beautiful appearance which can set the tone for the mood you are seeking to evoke.<br /></div></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><h3><strong></strong></h3><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Fun Looks and Styles </span><br />The how to of eyeliner application begins with a consideration of the look for which you are aiming. There are several fun ways of defining your appearance before you put on that first stroke of the eyeliner. Will you be going for the gothic look? Are you hoping to achieve that glamorous movie star look? Perhaps you are simply aiming for an enhanced natural look to showcase the beauty that is yours.<br /> <br /> <span style="font-weight: bold;">Liquid, Gel, or Loose Powder Application</span><br />After the definition of the look, the choice of eyeliner pencil is the next consideration. To apply eyeliner, a thin and sometimes hard pencil it utilized, but this does not permit for easy application once the skin underneath your eyes has lost some of its teenage firmness. Waterproof gel or loose powder eye makeup is another option, but they require a steady hand. A happy medium is a soft consistency eyeliner pen from Cake, Estee Lauder, Christian Dior, Bobby Brown or Mac.<br /> <br /> <span style="font-weight: bold;">Color Choices: Black, White, Glitter…..</span><br />Next, chose your colors wisely, white might be great to make a dramatic contrast to dark skin or add little designs to your eyelids, but if you are going for an organic, natural look, you may opt for something that is just a shade darker than your eyelashes. Enhancements, such as glitter and eye shadow matching styles are also available, yet they will draw a lot of attention to your eyes and detract from other parts of your appearance, such as a great haircut or lip liner. Make sure you do not overdo the drama of your eyes and then have it compete with the dramatic shape enhancement of your lip liner!<br /> <br /> <span style="font-weight: bold;">Eyeliner Designs & Techniques<br /></span>The best eyeliner technique for lasting effect is to complement your eye’s shape but slightly enhance it. For example, make a fine line that just slightly extends beyond the corner of your lower lid to get the coveted cat’s eye appearance. Use white eyeliner on the inner rim of your lashes for a more open and alert look. Remove eyeliner that spread beyond its intended locale with a q-tip dipped in a bit of eye makeup remover. Do not cover it up with powder since the color will come to the forefront in a short period of time.<br /></div><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-25854930639675299552009-07-26T11:46:00.002+08:002009-07-26T11:59:00.183+08:00Beauty Tips : Treatments For Preventing And Healing Dry, Cracked Feet And Heels<div style="text-align: justify;">It’s the end of your day and as you remove your shoes you are once again met with dry cracked feet. They not only feel scaly and painful, but they also look like you’ve been walking on razor blades! No matter how rough and callous your feet currently are, this does not have to be the fate of your feet forever. There are five steps you can follow to learn how to heal your dry cracked feet and prevent them from drying out in the future.</div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Treatment for Dry Cracked Feet </span><br />The first step for at-home treatment is to wash or soak your feet everyday in lukewarm water and a mild soap. You can add a soothing foot product to help condition your feet if you choose. Dr. Scholl’s and Burt’s Bees offer great medicated moisturizing products. However, if you’d rather use items from the kitchen, mixing one cup of honey with a gallon of water and soaking ten to fifteen minutes can drastically improve the moisture in the skin. Honey is also a natural antiseptic and is a safe cure for cracked or bleeding skin. Be careful not to use the pumice stone too vigorously on your cracked feet as it may make them worse.<br /></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><p>Second, you’ll need to dry your feet well. Pay close attention to the skin in between the toes. If this area is not dried properly it can create a breeding ground for bacteria and lead to infection. Pat the feet and do not rub harshly or you can cause more damage!</p> Next, apply a foot cream, lotion or foot ointment. There are many lotions available offering moisturizers such as Vitamin E, shea butter, aloe and more. These are often helpful for dry, but not severely dry skin. Podiatrists and diabetic specialists often recommend a foot cream such as O’Keeffe’s working feet cream. This cream is not greasy, hypoallergenic, has no odor and contains no oil or alcohol. It helps replenish the skin with glycerin and protect the skin with paraffin. These ingredients help to sooth, hydrate and repair the skin tissue of the feet.<br /> <br /> <h3><strong></strong></h3><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Try a Home Remedy </span><br />There are also home remedies available which are said to soothe. For instance, mixing baby lotion with spearmint and eucalyptus oil is a known remedy. It is said to create a “super lotion” which sooths, heals and smells fresh. Other natural remedy moisturizers include almond oil, avocado oil, jojoba oil and coconut milk. You can try the moisturizer of your choice to see which works best for you.<br /><br />The fourth step requires you to put on clean, white cotton socks. The cotton helps to whisk away moisture while the colorless material prevents any dyes from irritating the skin. Many people choose to put their socks on at bedtime and wear them overnight for enhanced moisturizing. When you wake up your feet will feel as if you got a spa pedicure overnight! <br /><br />Finally, be sure to check your feet everyday. Look for cuts or blisters and treat them promptly. Keeping your feet clean and applying moisturizer is an excellent way to care for your feet. You can also insure foot health by eating a diet rich in Vitamin A, which promotes skin health. Foods such as carrots, sweet potatoes, kale, spinach and pumpkin are all excellent sources.<br /><br />In addition to the foods you eat, the amount of water you drink is important as well. Drinking six to eight glasses of water can help to keep your skin, soft and subtle naturally. The main causes for severe dry skin or xerosis (as it is known medically) is often dehydration, Vitamin A deficiency or diabetes. You do not have to suffer from dry cracked feet or feet fissures! Simply follow the steps above and you’ll be kicking up your heels with happiness.<br /></div><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-60133192670787283022009-07-16T06:16:00.006+08:002009-07-16T07:12:35.213+08:00Depo-Provera And Breastfeeding<div style="text-align: justify;">Hi guys i may not be active in the blogging world starting this 27th of July because classes will start this week. Yes, am back to school! This is my second course and i am taking Diploma in Nursing. Why? Because nursing has more potential for job opportunities for me here in Malaysia. Unfortunately, my previous profession has a very minimal chance to get a job here especially i am a foreigner.<br /><br />Anyway, back to the topic, i would like to share this information on Depo-Provera an injectable contraceptive for women especially those mothers who are breastfeeding like me and is planning to take this contraceptive but is worried of the side effects of the drug on breast milk. <div style="text-align: justify;"><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">What is Depo-Provera?</span> <br />Depo-Provera (medroxyprogesterone acetate) is a drug very similar to progesterone, a hormone normally produced by the ovaries every month as part of the menstrual cycle. Depo-Provera is an injectable medicine that prevents pregnancy for up to 3 months with each injection ("shot").<br /></div></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><div style="float: none;"> <h3></h3></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">How does it work?<br /></span>Depo-Provera prevents pregnancy by preventing ovulation (the release of an egg from the ovary). If an egg is not released, pregnancy is unlikely. Depo-Provera is given as 1 shot in the buttock or upper arm. The first shot should be given within 5 days after the beginning of a normal menstrual period, and shots should be repeated every 3 months.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-weight: bold;">Is it effective?<br /></span>Depo-Provera is as effective as tubal ligation (having your tubes tied) and more effective at preventing pregnancy than several other methods, including birth control pills, condoms and diaphragms. It does not, however, protect against AIDS or any other sexually transmitted diseases.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Is the effect permanent? </span> <br /><div style="text-align: justify;">No. Depo-Provera only works for about 3 months. The shot must be repeated every 3 months to prevent pregnancy. After a woman stops using Depo-Provera, her normal ovarian function returns after a short time. However, it takes an average of 9 to 10 months to get pregnant after getting the last shot.</div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-weight: bold;">How long can I take it?</span> <br />You should not use Depo-Provera for more than 2 years unless no other form of birth control is right for you. Using Depo-Provera can cause you to lose some of the calcium that is stored in your bones. The longer you use Depo-Provera, the more calcium you may lose. The calcium may not return completely once you stop using it. This can lead to osteoporosis.</div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Are there side effects? </span> <br />Most women have some changes in their menstrual periods while using Depo-Provera, including irregular and unpredictable bleeding or spotting, an increase or decrease in menstrual bleeding, or no bleeding at all. After 1 year of use, about 50% of women have no bleeding at all. The absence of periods is not harmful, and periods usually return to normal after Depo-Provera is stopped. If unusually heavy or continuous bleeding occurs, you should see your doctor. Other possible side effects include weight gain, headaches, nervousness, abdominal discomfort, dizziness and weakness or fatigue.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Can I use it if I am breastfeeding?</span><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"> Depo-Provera can be used safely in women who are breastfeeding. Long-term studies of babies whose mothers used Depo-Provera while breastfeeding found no bad effects.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Who should not use Depo-Provera? </span><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Women who have any of the following should not use Depo-Provera: liver disease, a history of blood clots (phlebitis) or stroke, vaginal bleeding without a known reason, cancer of the breast or reproductive organs, known or suspected pregnancy, or allergy to the medication in Depo-Provera.<br /><br />For more information on birth control please visit <a href="http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home.html">here</a><br /><br />Note: Always consult your doctor or Health Care Provider what is best precaution for you.</div></div></div></div></div><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-77013688666178270202009-07-06T14:16:00.004+08:002009-07-06T15:11:47.685+08:00Ways How To Manage Tantrums In Toddlers<div style="text-align: justify;">I am worried about my daughter since 3 days now she is showing her temper tantrums. Yesterday was the worst day, when we went to clinic to get her flu and cough medicines. She was so angry that we always stopped her from sitting on the floor where her feet was so dirty. She was screaming like nobody's business, kicking and jumping and insisted on bare foot. Was so ashamed with other patients looking only at me and my daughter. So this morning i browsed on the net and found these article by Cecilia Stewart on ways how to manage toddlers tantrums.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><a href="http://infantstoddlers.suite101.com/article.cfm/temper_tantrums_in_toddlers">Temper tantrums</a> in toddlers can range in severity from mild crying and rolling around on the floor, to severe screaming, kicking, vomiting, jumping up and down, and sometimes aggressive behavior.<br /><br />"Researchers think that these emotional explosions are part of children’s normal efforts to establish a sense of autonomy - a sort of declaration of independence from mom and dad," says the PBS parent article "Early Learning: Focus on Birth to Five, Tips for Raising Your Baby and Preschooler."<br /></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">What Are Some Common Reasons for Temper Tantrums in Toddlers?</span><br /><ul><li>Toddlers may be tired from lack of sleep.</li><li>Children may be hungry.</li><li>There could be too many changes in your surrounding environment, such as a divorce or the addition of a new baby in the household.</li><li>Toddlers don’t know how to verbally communicate the fact that they are angry or disappointed and may resort to temper tantrums as a way of expressing their emotions.</li><li>Some children may use temper tantrums as a means of getting attention from you.</li><li>Children may want to become more independent and have more opportunities to make decisions.</li><li>Toddlers may be frustrated because they can’t accomplish a task that may be too difficult for them.</li><li>Temper tantrums in children can be a result of discomfort.</li><li>Children might throw temper tantrums because you won’t give them something that they want, such as a ball or a piece of candy.<br /></li></ul><span style="font-weight: bold;">How Should <a href="http://888umi.blogspot.com/search/label/parenting">Parents</a> Handle Temper Tantrums in Toddlers?</span><br /><br />Whether your children experience frequent or sporadic outbursts, there are things that you can do to effectively manage emotional outbursts in children.<br /><ul><li>In the article "<a href="http://www.medem.com/medlib/article/ZZZIM9R9H4C">Temper Tantrums and Childhood</a>" the American Academy of Pediatrics says, "You should never punish your child for temper tantrums. He may start to keep his anger or frustration inside, which can be unhealthy." You should always remain calm and find ways to soothe your child while acknowledging the fact that you understand his feelings.</li><li>If your child has a temper tantrum because he is upset that you denied him something, you can simply ignore it.</li><li>No matter how frustrated you become, avoid losing control. You should never resort to physical punishment or yelling as a means to control a temper tantrum. Even in the midst of your child’s temper tantrum, he is learning how to manage his emotions from you.</li><li>Don’t bribe your child to get him to stop throwing the tantrum. This will only encourage him to throw temper tantrums more often.<br /></li></ul><span style="font-weight: bold;">How Can Parents Prevent Temper Tantrums in Toddlers?</span><br /><br />There is no foolproof method for avoiding temper tantrums in toddlers but there are ways that you can prevent a few.<br /><ul><li>Avoid placing your child in stressful situations.</li><li>Remove them from any stimulants that may trigger emotional outbursts.</li><li>Distract your child if you see the onset of a temper tantrum.</li><li>Make sure that your child gets the proper amount of sleep.</li><li>Make sure that you have nutritious foods readily available for them to eat when they get hungry.</li><li>Try to avoid huge disruptions in your toddler’s daily routine.</li><li>Give your child the opportunity to make simple choices. You can let him decide whether he wants bologna or ham on his sandwich. Both choices are acceptable to you and your child gets to opportunity to feel independent.<br /></li></ul>Most temper tantrums will dissipate by the time children reach the age of four. If you feel that your child's temper tantrums are a result of underlying emotional issues, you should contact his doctor immediately.<br /></div><br />Here are 2 books that you might be interested also:<br /><br /><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0026IBZKI?ie=UTF8&tag=motknobes-20&linkCode=xm2&camp=1789&creativeASIN=B0026IBZKI"></a><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0026IBZKI?ie=UTF8&tag=motknobes-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B0026IBZKI">The One-Minute Temper Tantrum Solution: Strategies for Responding to Children's Challenging Behaviors</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=motknobes-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B0026IBZKI" alt="" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important;" width="1" border="0" height="1" /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001LK8HE4?ie=UTF8&tag=motknobes-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B001LK8HE4">Temper Tantrum Common Sense Handbook (Common Sense Handbooks)</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=motknobes-20&l=as2&o=1&a=B001LK8HE4" alt="" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important;" width="1" border="0" height="1" /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0026IBZKI?ie=UTF8&tag=motknobes-20&linkCode=xm2&camp=1789&creativeASIN=B0026IBZKI"></a></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-161632933438274492009-07-01T09:33:00.004+08:002009-07-01T10:11:06.784+08:0010 Must Do Breakup Advice<div style="text-align: justify;">If you are going through the emotional roller coaster of a breakup, feeling pain, anger and depression, know this: You don’t need to suffer one more day over your ex! It doesn’t matter how long you have suffered, it is time to give up the pain and open up to a life free of pain.<br /><br />Yes, <a href="http://flipthisbreakup.com/">breaking up</a> is hard to do. We've all gone through it, we've all cried and thought it would never end. But life does go on, and it actually gets much better!<br /><br />Follow these must do 10 "breakup advice" <span style="font-family:verdana,arial;"><small>By Tigress Luv, the Breakup Guru </small></span>and see a great result. Give these to your friend/s who are in this situation.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">1. </span><span style="font-weight: bold;">Be Realistic.</span><br />Don't over-exaggerate your ex's good points and under-acknowledge their bad. Do not put your ex on a pedestal!<br /></div></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><span style="font-family:verdana,arial;"><small></small></span><div style="text-align: justify;">The funny thing about being 'dumped' is that we unconsciously build up our ex's worth in our minds. We start to make them into better beings than they really are, erroneously making them to be more powerful and 'needed' influences in our lives. Unfortunately, while we are building them up to Higher Power status in our minds, they are ripping our worth to shreds in order to find the strength to leave us.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">2. Accept It </span><br />Accept that the breakup did occur and that the <a href="http://888umi.blogspot.com/search/label/Relationship">relationship</a> is over. By refusing to accept this you are only lengthening the grief process. You cannot keep a relationship alive in your 'head' by denying the breakup occurred, or by thing about the relationship and rehashing things over and over. Whether you accept it or not the facts still remain: You have broken up. The relationship is over. And you will be okay. I promise you!<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;"> 3. Put You First </span><br />If you don't find value in you, who will? Pamper and love yourself first and foremost. This is not the time to turn your back on you, but rather a time to embrace you. God made your arms just long enough to embrace yourself. Try it. No one is looking! Go ahead and put your arms around you and give yourself a huge, cradling hug! Of all the people in your life, you are the only one that will never abandon you.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">4. Write Your Thoughts Down </span><br />Start your own personal journal about your journey from your heartbreak to 'better-than-ever'. I know one man who kept a record of his breakup by posting on the Lifted Hearts break up board at http://liftedhearts.com, starting from his devastating beginning days, to his healed and in love again days, and then turned them into an awesome book of self-discovery and hope. You can find a great source made specifically for journaling through your breakup with the book, My Breakup Keepsake, found at http://mybreakupkeepsake.com. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">5. Forgive Him or Her </span><br />Find forgiveness for your ex - and for yourself. It is impossible to heal without forgiveness. Understand that your ex isn't looking to hurt you, but rather looking to find his or her own happiness.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">6. Accept That You Love Them </span><br />Recognize that you cannot will yourself to not love someone. You loved your ex, and perhaps you always will. Quit beating yourself up over the fact and quit trying to find the magic bullet that will slay your love. It's okay to love someone that you are not with, and may never be with, but it's not okay to try to fall out of love with someone.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;"> 7. Make a Plan </span><br />Get a goal and implement it. Plan out your new goal and start with step on, not finishing until you've accomplished the final step. This goal could be to write a book, grow a garden, change careers, go back to school, or lose twenty pounds…having a goal gives you something to focus on and work towards. It keeps you from dwelling on what was and keeps you avidly looking forward to what 'will' be.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">8. Change It Up </span><br />Get rid of the same-ol'-same! Alter your routine, rearrange your home, or remodel a room. Get a new hairdo, buy a new car, volunteer at a local charity…. anything that changes your typical lifestyle can be most rewarding during a breakup. Sometimes the old and the 'familiar' can be devastatingly sad when going through the transition from two to one, so change it up!<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">9. Keep Yourself Clean - and You Know What I Mean! </span><br />This is not the time to turn to alcohol, drugs, or one-nights stands in a feeble attempt to kill your pain. It only adds to your problems and can end up being a permanent reminder to a temporary situation. Even simple things such as energy drinks or too much caffeine can cause anxiety or escalate out-of-hand emotions to full-blown panic attacks - which are a very common occurrence during a breakup. Learn to cope with out-of-hand emotions by spirituality, soothing music, sipping tea, taking a 'time-out', reading a book, or - my favorite - walking! I walked myself into the sexiest legs and prettiest tan during my breakup. What an added bonus that was!<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">10. Date Again </span><br />Don't worry about all the advice you hear about waiting to date again. Most of it's bunk. Dating again gets you out of the house, where breakup depression can fester and turn into something far worse. Dating again always restores a shattered ego, which is a very common by-product of a breakup. Dating again may also show you that there are millions of other people out there that can be as wonderful as your ex, or perhaps even more wonderful! If you open your heart back up and let new people in you will feel better.<br /></div><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-48261265715977331662009-06-26T11:05:00.004+08:002009-06-26T11:38:36.153+08:00Building Great Relationships Using Emotional Intelligence<p></p><div style="text-align: justify;">The best things in life – success, happiness, love – depend on our ability to create and maintain great relationships. Most of us do a good job with relationships at the start, only to stumble down the road. Why do <a href="http://888umi.blogspot.com/search/label/Relationship">relationships</a> develop such challenging problems? <br /><br />Oftentimes, relationship problems are due to a breakdown in the skills of emotional intelligence. Fortunately, it’s never too late to develop these skills and raise your emotional intelligence abilities. Once you’ve learned the five key emotional intelligence skills, you’ll be able to create and sustain secure, successful, long-lasting relationships.</div><p></p><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><h2></h2><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">How does emotional intelligence help our relationships? </span><br />Many people put their best foot forward in a new work setting or when looking to attract a mate, but stumble while trying to maintain their relationships over the long term. That’s because keeping a relationship healthy and fulfilling requires a unique skill set that many of us don’t have. This skill set is known as emotional intelligence. <br /><br />Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, control, and effectively communicate our own emotions, and to recognize the emotions of other people. When our emotional intelligence skills are well developed, we have a solid emotional foundation that helps us build strong relationships and communicate clearly.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">What is your current emotional intelligence skill level? </span><br />Your emotional intelligence is your set of key relationship skills or abilities that help you establish strong relationships and deal with relationship problems. Find your emotional intelligence skill level by answering usually, sometimes, or rarely to the questions in this quick relationship quiz.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"> Test your emotional intelligence :<br /><ul><li>Do you feel connected when talking to most people? Or are you easily distracted?<br /></li><li>Are you comfortable with pauses? Do you feel at ease when no one is speaking?<br /></li><li>Do you sense when someone feels troubled before being told?<br /></li><li>Do you judge or criticize some of your emotions or feelings?<br /></li><li>Do you pay attention to your gut feelings when making important decisions?<br /></li><li>Do you immediately notice when you become stressed?<br /></li><li>Do you know how to quickly calm yourself down when you’re stressed?<br /></li><li>Do you laugh, play, or kid around with others?<br /></li><li>Do you use humor to negotiate rough spots?<br /></li><li>Can you easily deal with differences and disagreements? </li></ul><div style="text-align: justify;">Answering <span style="font-style: italic;">usually</span> to most of the questions indicates that you have a good start toward emotionally intelligent communication in your relationships. If your answers were primarily <span style="font-style: italic;">sometimes or rarely</span>, you may need some <a href="http://www.helpguide.org/mental/improve_relationships.htm">help developing your relationship skills</a>. </div></div></div></div></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-44087856258713700932009-06-22T16:48:00.005+08:002009-06-22T16:57:03.951+08:00Painkillers Might Help Men Avoid Prostate Problems<p></p><div style="text-align: justify;">SATURDAY, June 20 (HealthDay News) -- Taking over-the-counter painkillers such as aspirin and ibuprofen might help men avoid prostate problems. <br /><br />But even so, medical experts are quick to caution men not to self-dose or to take more than the recommended amounts of these medications, because harmful side effects can result. <br /><br />"Our data suggest if men are taking these [medications] for another problem, it might prevent urological problems as well," said Jennifer St. Sauver, an epidemiologist at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota who led a study that found that men who took nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) daily had a reduction of about 50 percent in enlargement of the prostate gland. The condition, called benign prostatic hyperplasia, affects many men after age 40.<br /></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><p></p><div style="text-align: justify;">The gland, about the size of a walnut, is below the bladder and surrounds the urine-carrying canal or urethra. The gland often enlarges in older men, making urination difficult. <br /><br />But men in St. Sauver's study who took painkillers daily had more than a third fewer moderate to severe urinary problems than men who did not take daily painkillers. <br /><br />Lower levels of prostate specific antigen (PSA) also seem to be a benefit experienced by men who take NSAIDs regularly. PSA is a biomarker in the bloodstream that is used to assess the risk of getting prostate cancer. <br /><br />Dr. Eric A. Singer, chief resident in urology at the University of Rochester Medical Center in New York, led a team of researchers who found that regular use of NSAIDs yielded PSA levels 10 percent lower than in men who didn't use them. St. Sauver's study found lower PSA levels among NSAID users in her study as well. <br /><br />Men taking acetaminophen also were included in Singer's study, and they had about the same reduction in PSA levels. But, because the number of men who took acetaminophen was low, the result was not great enough to be statistically significant, he explained. <br /><br />Exactly how the medications seemingly prevent enlargement of the prostate and other problems isn't certain, St. Sauver and Singer agreed. But they speculated that the medication's anti-inflammatory action plays a major role. <br /><br />However, men who take NSAIDs need to keep in mind that, if taken in excess, the drugs can cause kidney ailments and other problems, Singer warned. And too much acetaminophen has been associated with liver toxicity. <br /><br />The U.S. Food and Drug Administration warns that extended use of NSAIDs can increase the chances of a fatal heart attack or stroke and also can cause ulcers or excessive bleeding in the stomach and intestines. <br /><br />Because of such possibilities, "we are certainly not telling men to take NSAIDs to reduce PSA or prostate cancer risk," Singer said, despite the "good news" from the studies. <br /><br />''Talk to your health-care provider about prostate health and prostate cancer screening," he advised, adding a reminder to "make sure your doctor knows what medications you are taking." <br /><br />No one knows exactly why some men develop prostate cancer, and others don't. In the United States, though, almost 190,000 men are expected to be diagnosed with the disease this year, and about one in six will develop it at some point in their life, according to the American Cancer Society. <br /><br />Age is the main risk factor for prostate cancer. U.S. government statistics show that the disease rarely occurs in men younger than 40 and most often strikes men older than 65. <br /><br />To treat prostate cancer that has not spread beyond the gland, according to the Cancer Society, doctors most often recommend:<br /><ul><li>Prostatectomy, surgery to remove all or part of the prostate gland</li><li>Radiation, either via an external beam or implanted radioactive seeds</li><li>Watchful waiting, the term used to describe deferring treatment until there are signs that the cancer is progressing<br /></li></ul>And, as treatment and detection methods have improved, the survival rate for prostate cancer has been improving in the United States in recent decades, according to the National Cancer Institute.</div><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-7885138948230884012009-06-18T16:39:00.001+08:002009-06-18T16:42:22.194+08:00Autistics Are Better At Problem Solving<div style="text-align: justify;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgu4kHVRS9XVVdyEuGmVY3I1GTpA0uFKDFLoTMR31btjsDA8uHMEaReErJI2M1zOOi9_YJ47hQfK7TqImBM75PKn9nzOIbLTq0QBJg_Ul_7AVh7xS5GxPuxCmSYGnBZmZPxZnJAUCoNryE/s1600-h/autistic+boy.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 117px; height: 87px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgu4kHVRS9XVVdyEuGmVY3I1GTpA0uFKDFLoTMR31btjsDA8uHMEaReErJI2M1zOOi9_YJ47hQfK7TqImBM75PKn9nzOIbLTq0QBJg_Ul_7AVh7xS5GxPuxCmSYGnBZmZPxZnJAUCoNryE/s320/autistic+boy.JPG" alt="a picture" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5348581613939928786" title="Autistics Are Better At Problem Solving" border="0" /></a>According to a new Université de Montréal and Harvard University study published in the journal Human Brain Mapping that autistics are up to 40 percent faster at problem-solving than non-autistics. This is based on the investigation were participants were asked to complete patterns in the Raven's Standard Progressive Matrices (RSPM) - test that measures hypothesis-testing, problem-solving and learning skills.<br /><br /><span id="fullpost"><br />"While both groups performed RSPM test with equal accuracy, the autistic group responded more quickly and appeared to use perceptual regions of the brain to accelerate problem-solving," says lead author Isabelle Soulières, a post-doctoral fellow at Harvard University who completed the experiment at the Université de Montréal. "Some critics argued that autistics would be unable to complete the RSPM because of its complexity, yet our study shows autistics complete it as efficiently and have a more highly developed perception than non-autistics."<br /><br />Fifteen autistics and 18 non-autistics were recruited for the study. Participants were 14 to 36 years old and matched according to their preliminary results on the Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale. All subjects underwent magnetic resonance imaging to explore their neural activity during RSPM problem-solving. While autism is a common neurodevelopmental disability characterized by profound differences in information processing and analysis, this study showed that autistics have efficient reasoning abilities that build on their perceptual strengths.<br /><br />"This study builds on our previous findings and should help educators capitalize on the intellectual abilities of autistics," says senior researcher Laurent Mottron, the new Marcel & Rolande Gosselin Research Chair in Autism Cognitive Neuroscience of the Université de Montréal and psychiatry professor. "The limits of autistics should constantly be pushed and their educational materials should never be simplified.<br /><br />Adds Dr. Soulières: "The Raven's Standard Progressive Matrices are among the most complex tests to provide insight on how a person understands and formulates rules, manages goal hierarchies and performs high-level abstractions. Our wager was that autistics could complete such a test and they surpassed our expectations."<br /><br />About the study:<br />The study, "Enhanced Visual Processing Contributes to Matrix Reasoning in Autism, published in the journal Human Brain Mapping, was authored by Isabelle Soulières, Gary E. Strangman, Cherif Sahyoun and Thomas A. Zeffiro of the Harvard University and Laurent Mottron, Michelle Dawson, Fabienne Samson and Elise B. Barbeau of the Université de Montréal.<br /><br />Partners in research:<br />This study was funded by the Canadian Institutes of Health Research and Autism Speaks.<br /></span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-89239406416839018652009-06-14T14:29:00.000+08:002009-06-14T14:33:00.343+08:00A Health Story Of Our Body Anatomy<div style="text-align: justify;">A story of our body anatomy! Interesting article and it is worth reading! Please finish reading so you will know the story of your body organs!<br /><br />Time: When your body really starts going downhill<br /><br />There's no denying the ticking of a woman's biological clock - but men are not immune, either. French doctors have found that the quality of sperm starts to deteriorate by 35, so that by the time a man is 45 a third of pregnancies end in miscarriage. Here, with the help of leading clinicians, Angela Epstein identifies the ages when different parts of the body start to lose their battle with time.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">BRAIN Starts ageing at 20</span><br />As we get older, the number of nerve cells - or neurons - in the brain decrease. We start with around 100 billion, but in our 20s this number starts to decline.<br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><br />By 40, we could be losing up to 10,000 per day, affecting memory, co-ordination and brain function.<br /><br />In fact, while the neurons are important, it's actually the deterioration of the gaps between the brain cells that has the biggest impact, says Dr Wojtek Rakowicz, a consultant neurologist at Imperial College Healthcare NHS Trust in London .<br /><br />We all assume Grey hair and wrinkles are the first signs of aging, but some parts of your body are worn out long before you look old.<br /><br />These tiny gaps between the end of one brain nerve cell and another are called synapses. Their job is to ensure the flow of information from one cell to another, and as we age we make fewer.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">GUT Starts aging at 55</span><br />A healthy gut has a good balance between harmful and 'friendly' bacteria.<br /><br />But levels of friendly bacteria in the gut drop significantly after 55, particularly in the large intestine, says Tom MacDonald, professor of immunology at Barts And The London medical school. As a result, we suffer from poor digestion and an increased risk of gut disease.<br /><br />Constipation is more likely as we age, as the flow of digestive juices from the stomach, liver, pancreas and small intestine slows down.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">BREASTS Starts aging at 35</span><br />BY their mid-30s, women's breasts start losing tissue and fat, reducing size and fullness.<br /><br />Sagging starts properly at 40 and the areola (the area surrounding the nipple) can shrink considerably.<br /><br />Although breast cancer risk increases with age, it's not related to physical changes in the breast.<br /><br />More likely, says Gareth Evans, breast cancer specialist at St Mary's Hospital, Manchester , our cells become damaged with age - as a result, the genes which control cell growth can mutate, causing cancer.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">BLADDER Starts ageing at 65</span><br />Loss of bladder control is more likely when you hit 65. The bladder starts to contract suddenly, even when it's not full.<br /><br />Women are more vulnerable to bladder problems as, after the menopause, declining estrogen levels make tissues in the urethra - the tube through which urine passes - thinner and weaker, reducing bladder support.<br /><br />Bladder capacity in an older adult generally is about half that of a younger person - about two cups in a 30-year-old and one cup in a 70-year-old.<br /><br />This causes more frequent trips to the loo, particularly as poor muscle tone means the bladder may not fully empty. This in turn can lead to urinary tract infections.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">LUNGS Start ageing at 20</span><br />Lung capacity slowly starts to decrease from the age of 20.<br /><br />By the age of 40, some people are already experiencing breathlessness. This is partly because the muscles and the rib cage which control breathing stiffen up.<br /><br />It's then harder to work the lungs and also means some air remains in the lungs after breathing out - causing breathlessness.<br /><br />Aged 30, the average man can inhale two pints of air in one breath. By 70, it's down to one.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">VOICE Starts ageing at 65</span><br />Our voices become quieter and hoarser with age. The soft tissues in the voice box (larynx) weaken, affecting the pitch, loudness and quality of the voice.<br /><br />A woman's voice may become huskier and lower in pitch, whereas a man's might become thinner and higher.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">EYES start ageing at 40</span><br />Glasses are the norm for many over - 40s as failing eyesight kicks in - usually long-sightedness, affecting our ability to see objects up close.<br /><br />As we age, the eye's ability to focus deteriorates because the eyes' muscles become weaker, says Andrew Lotery, professor of ophthalmology at the University of Southampton .<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">HEART Starts ageing at 40</span><br />The heart pumps blood less effectively around the body as we get older.<br /><br />This is because blood vessels become less elastic, while arteries can harden or become blocked because of fatty deposits forming on the coronary arteries - caused by eating too much saturated fat.<br /><br />The blood supply to the heart is then reduced, resulting in painful angina. Men over 45 and women over 55 are at greater risk of a heart attack.<br /><br />A recent study by Lloyds Pharmacy found the average person in the UK has a 'heart age' five years older than their chronological age, probably due to obesity and lack of exercise.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">LIVER Starts ageing at 70</span><br />This is the only organ in the body which seems to defy the aging process.<br /><br />'Its cells have an extraordinary capacity to regenerate,' explain David Lloyd, a consultant liver surgeon at Leicester Royal Infirmary.<br /><br />He says he can remove half a liver during surgery and it will grow to the size of a complete liver within three months.<br /><br />If a donor doesn't drink, use drug or suffer from infection, then it is possible to transplant a 70-year-old liver into a 20-year-old.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">KIDNEYS Starts ageing at 50</span><br />With kidneys, the number of filtering units (nephrons) that remove waste from the bloodstream starts to reduce in middle age.<br /><br />One effect of this is their inability to turn off urine production at night, causing frequent trips to the bathroom.<br /><br />The kidneys of a 75-year-old person will filter only half the amount of blood that a 30-year-old's will.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">PROSTATE Starts ageing at 50</span><br />The prostate often becomes enlarged with age, leading to problems such as increased need to urinate, says Professor Roger Kirby, director of the Prostate Centre in London . This is known as benign prostatic hyperplasia and affects half of men over 50, but rarely those under 40.<br /><br />It occurs when the prostate absorbs large amounts of the male sex hormone testosterone, which increases the growth of cells in the prostate.<br /><br />A normal prostate is the size of a walnut, but the condition can increase this to the size of a tangerine.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">BONES Start ageing at 35</span><br />'Throughout our life, old bone is broken down by cells called osteoclasts and replaced by bone-building cells called osteoblasts - a process called bone turnover,' explains Robert Moots, professor of rheumatology at Aintree University Hospital in Liverpool .<br /><br />Children's bone growth is rapid - the skeleton takes just two years to renew itself completely. In adults, this can take ten years.<br /><br />Until our mid-20s, bone density is still increasing. But at 35 bone loss begins as part of the natural ageing process.<br /><br />This becomes more rapid in post-menopausal women and can cause the bone-thinning condition osteoporosis.<br /><br />The shrinking in size and density of bones can lead to loss of height. Bones in the back shrivel up or crumble between the vertebrae. We lose two inches in height by the time we're 80.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">TEETH Start ageing at 40</span><br />As we age, we produce less saliva, which washes away bacteria, so teeth and gums are more vulnerable to decay.<br /><br />Receding gums - when tissue is lost from gums around the teeth - is common in adults over 40.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">MUSCLES Start ageing at 30</span><br />Muscle is constantly being built up and broken down, a process which is well balanced in young adults.<br /><br />However, by the time we're 30, breakdown is greater than buildup, explains Professor Robert Moots.<br /><br />Once adults reach 40, they start to lose between 0.5 and 2 per cent of their muscle each year. Regular exercise can help prevent this..<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">HEARING Starts ageing mid-50s</span><br />More than half of people over 60 lose hearing because of their age, according to the Royal National Institute for the Deaf.<br /><br />The condition, known as presbycusis, happens due to a loss of 'hair cells' - tiny sensory cells in the inner ear which pick up sound vibrations and send them to the brain.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">SKIN Starts ageing mid-20s</span><br />The skin starts to age naturally in your mid-20s.<br /><br />According to Dr Andrew Wright, a consultant dermatologist with Bradford NHS Trust, as we get older production of collagen - the protein which acts as scaffolding to the skin - slows, and elastin, the substance that enables skin to snap back into place, has less spring and can even break.<br /><br />Dead skin cells don't shed as quickly and turnover of new skin cells may decrease slightly. This causes fine wrinkles and thin, transparent skin - even if the first signs may not appear until our mid-30s (unless accelerated by smoking or sun damage).<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">TASTE AND SMELL Start ageing at 60 </span><br /><br />We start out in life with about 10,000 taste buds scattered on the tongue. This number can halve later in life.<br /><br />After we turn 60, taste and smell gradually decline, partly as a result of the normal ageing process.<br /><br />This can be accelerated by problems such as polyps in the nasal or sinus cavities. It can also be the cumulative effect of years of smoking.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">FERTILITY starts ageing at 35</span><br />Female fertility begins to decline after 35, as the number and quality of eggs in the ovaries start to fall.<br /><br />The lining of the womb may become thinner, making it less likely for a fertilised egg to take, and also creating an environment hostile to sperm.<br /><br />Male fertility also starts to drop around this age. Men who wait until their 40s before starting a family have a greater chance of their partner having a miscarriage, because of the poorer quality of their sperm.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">HAIR Starts ageing at 30</span><br />Male hair loss usually begins in the 30s. Hair is made in tiny pouches just under the skin's surface, known as follices.<br /><br />A hair normally grows from each follicle for about three years, is then shed, and a new hair grows.<br /><br />However, with male-pattern baldness, changes in levels of testosterone from their early-30s affect this cycle, causing the hair follicles to shrink.<br /><br />Each new hair is thinner than the previous one.. Eventually, all that remains is a much smaller hair follicle and a thin stump of hair that does not grow out to the skin surface.<br /><br />Most people will have some grey hair by the age of 35. When we are young, our hair is coloured by the pigments produced by cells in the hair follicle known as melanocytes.<br /><br />As we grow older, melanocytes become less active, so less pigment is produced, the colour fades, and grey hairs grow instead.<br /></div><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-75242355317406995412009-06-10T11:03:00.001+08:002009-06-10T11:17:26.343+08:00Tips For A Beautiful Hair<div style="text-align: justify;">In addition to my previous post <a href="http://888umi.blogspot.com/2009/06/beauty-tips-for-natural-shiny-hair.html">beauty tips for a natural shiny hair,</a> here are simple tips to beautify your hair from roots to tips. The recipe below are all natural and you can do these in your own kitchen.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Wash and dry your hair carefully to prevent tangles and damage. If you wash and towel dry your hair too vigorously you'll damage your hair before you even begin to style! When washing your hair, use your finger tips to gently rub your scalp. Don't scrub. To dry your hair pat and squeeze dry with a towel.<br /></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"> Make sure you are using brushes which are appropriate for your hair type and your hair length. Use brushes with rounded ends to prevent damage. Brush your hair gently and only when necessary. Maintain your hair with pride and consistency. Depending on the length and style, have it trimmed appropriately. If you wear your hair short, have the style refreshed every 3-4 weeks. If you are growing your hair longer, have it trimmed every 6-8 weeks to remove split ends.<br /><br />Make sure to eat enough protein. Since the hair shaft is composed of a protein called keratin, a diet low in protein is a triggering factor for brittle hair. You need at least two to three daily servings of protein (tofu, soy milk, beans and peas, nuts and nut butters) for hair that's manageable and healthy.<br /><br /></div><span style="font-weight: bold;">Egg Shampoo</span><br />• 1 egg<br />• 1 tsp olive oil<br />• 1 tsp lemon juice<br />• 1 Tbsp castile soap<br />• 1/2 cup water or herbal tea<br />• 5 Drops of essential oil of your choice (optional)<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"> Combine all in blender and whip until smooth. Shampoo with mixture using warm,not hot water for the shampoo and rinse. Store any remaining shampoo in the refrigerator for use the next day.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Each time you shampoo your hair gently massage your scalp with the pads of your fingers in a circular motion, this will encourage a healthy scalp so increase shine and condition as well as encouraging growth.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Use a hot oil treatment once or twice a week. Deep conditioning can help keep hair manageable. Warm one tablespoon of jojoba, avocado or olive oil in the palm of your hand; massage into hair; place a plastic shower cap over your head for 30 to 60 minutes; rinse out with a gentle shampoo.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Once layers get quite long, comb in a zigzag parting. This will create body and make growing out layers work for you rather than against you.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Many fruits and vegetables can be used as natural hair products. Mashed avocado and mayonnaise are great moisturizers for dry hair, and whipped eggs and yogurt (one egg to three teaspoons of yogurt) give hair great luster. Just massage them into the hair, place a shower cap over your hair for 20 to 30 minutes and rinse off with a gentle shampoo.<br /></div><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Herbal Shampoo</span><br />• 1/4 cup of your favorite herbal tea<br />• 8 oz liquid castile soap<br /><br />Add soap to tea. Stir over low heat until well blended. Store in a capped bottle.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Protein Shampoo</span><br />• 1 bar baby soap, shaved<br />• 4 quarts bottled water<br />• 2 slightly beaten eggs<br />• 1 tsp. of your favorite cologne<br />• 1 tsp. powdered borax<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Dissolve soap in boiling water. Let cool. Add eggs and borax. Stir to mix thoroughly. Save in a tightly sealed bottle.<br /></div><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Frizzy Hair Treatment</span><br />• 1 cup water<br />• 1/2 cup vinegar<br />• 1/2 cup oatmeal water<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">To make oatmeal water, soak the oatmeal in hot water and leaving it for two to three days at room temperature and then remove the oatmeal flakes with the use of cheesecloth. Rinse your hair with this mixture to help keep frizzy hair away.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">I have so many to share with you regarding beauty tips from head to toe. These are all homemade treatment that are easy to make right to your own kitchen...so subscribe to my RSS for more updates.<br /></div><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-51093832409436458062009-06-06T17:12:00.009+08:002009-06-06T17:47:46.112+08:00Beauty Tips For A Natural Shiny Hair<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiMG4-LD1ogbqMRI66TjpG2lFjRcbGTj9cFlFXEOwCiZLsmjA4nvwGozC1ruKAOXCemqSjAb_4RgZCfwa2Hy0FQ3wbQGeZ9FHwfijk_yo3YcMFf2f-rv32KMR_Y_LbNAjknttWrSOQmX8/s1600-h/hair+tips.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 127px; height: 93px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiMG4-LD1ogbqMRI66TjpG2lFjRcbGTj9cFlFXEOwCiZLsmjA4nvwGozC1ruKAOXCemqSjAb_4RgZCfwa2Hy0FQ3wbQGeZ9FHwfijk_yo3YcMFf2f-rv32KMR_Y_LbNAjknttWrSOQmX8/s320/hair+tips.JPG" alt="a picture" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5344144629019494290" border="0" title='Beauty Tips For A Natural Shiny Hair'/></a><span style="font-style: italic;">By Laci Chiodo </span><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"><br />Do you long for this beautiful and shiny hair? You are not alone. I have a dry and frizzy hair too. I have tried a lot of shampoo and conditioner brands but to no avail. Then i permed my hair just to make it straight and permed again and again but only last for a year and its very expensive to maintain such kind of treatment in my hair...<br /><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">As i browsed the net i found this natural tips by Laci Chiodo , it's homemade and inexpensive. I need to try these out too, hopefully it will change my hair.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">The Alluring Avocado</span><br />Mash an avocado (one avocado for short hair, two for long) in a bowl until it forms a thick paste. Spread the paste on your hair from root to tip and leave on for 20 minutes. Shampoo and rinse. Avocados are high in fatty acids and nutrients. Feed your hair!</div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-weight: bold;">Amazing Apple Cider Vinegar</span><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Mix half a cup of apple cider vinegar with one quart of water and use as a hair rinse after your regular shampoo. Rich in alpha-hydroxy acids, apple cider vinegar helps break down residue build-up leaving your hair soft and full of shine. Rinse your hair with apple cider vinegar and it will be shining in no time.<br /><br /></div></div><div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-weight: bold;">Eggs Over Olive Oil </span><br />Beat together two eggs for short hair, three for long, and add in three tablespoons of olive oil. Coat your hair from root to tip and leave on for 30 minutes. Shampoo and rinse. Eggs contain eleven essential nutrients and are packed with protein. Combine them with olive oil for conditioning and nourishment and you have one powerful duo.<br /><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-weight: bold;">Coconut Craze</span><br />Warm three tablespoons of coconut oil and gently comb into your hair from root to tip. Wrap your hair in a hot towel and let the oil sit for 30 minutes. Shampoo and rinse. Loaded with antioxidants, coconut oil works to smooth dry and damaged cuticles and lock in shine.<br /><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"> Life doesn't have to be dull and neither does your hair! It's time to shine! Open your cabinet and start mixing, then sit back and bask in your natural glow.<br /></div><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-62136101243492149982009-06-01T11:15:00.003+08:002009-06-01T11:49:22.458+08:00Mixed Frosty Fruit Punch RecipeThis fruit punch is great for your cocktail and birthday parties or any other gatherings with friends, colleagues and family. Preparation time 20 minutes and good for 6 servings.<br /><br />Ingredients:<br /><br />1 cup Marigold Fuji Apple, Peach and Orange jelly each<br />2 cans ice cream soda, chilled<br />1 red apple<br />1 green apple<br />1 tsp fresh lemon juice (mix lemon juice together with cut apples)<br />250 ml Marigold peel fresh blackcurrant & cranberry juice with Aloe Vera<br />1L Marigold peel fresh orange juice<br /><br /><span id="fullpost"><br />Method:<br /><ul><li>Put Marigold peel fresh blackcurrant and cranberry juice with Aloe Vera into ice cube trays to set in the freezer a day before making the fruit punch.</li><li>Diced apples and Marigold jellies</li><li>To make punch, combine ice cream soda with Marigold peel fresh orange juice, Marigold peel fresh blackcurrant and cranberry juice with Aloe Vera ice cubes, Marigold jellies and apples.</li></ul>Note: You can use your favorite brand of juices instead of Marigold<br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-17521839226391059852009-05-28T15:51:00.009+08:002009-05-28T16:22:33.494+08:00Tom Yam Fruity Fishy RecipeI think you would love to try this one - it is yummy, healthy and delicious! It takes only 20 minutes to prepare and is good for 4 servings.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjfyhSSUkQihqXKdiKx7aTyOsWruGKUrzvQT1HQgurq1WsjilGCFNWIAJMYKyGTRf_ETPDmsSYmLxim_X4zY-9EK-54X9PAV1Sh1jmZSnWwVdYmTOkb5blgB19_cR6-Ko1MvEtvueJyXU/s1600-h/fruity+fish.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 214px; height: 123px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjfyhSSUkQihqXKdiKx7aTyOsWruGKUrzvQT1HQgurq1WsjilGCFNWIAJMYKyGTRf_ETPDmsSYmLxim_X4zY-9EK-54X9PAV1Sh1jmZSnWwVdYmTOkb5blgB19_cR6-Ko1MvEtvueJyXU/s400/fruity+fish.JPG" alt="a picture" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5340786381693115362" border="0" title='Tom Yam Fruity Fishy Recipe'/></a>Ingredients:<br /><br />500 g black pomfret, 1 whole fish or 2 small fishes<br />1/2 tsp salt<br />1 large onion, cut into wedges<br />a few kaffir leaves<br />1 cup of diced pineapple from the can<br />1/2 cup cut guava<br />1 tomato, diced<br />seasoning<br /><span id="fullpost"><br />3 tbsp tom yam paste<br />1 tbsp fish sauce<br />2 tbsp sugar<br />250 ml fresh guava juice<br />1 ginger flower, chopped finely<br />some coriander leaves<br />cooking oil<br /><br />Method:<br /><ul><li style="text-align: justify;">Heat 2 tbsp oil, suate onions till fragrant, add in Tom Yam paste and fresh guaa juice. Bring it to a boil, and then add in tomatoes, diced pineapple, guava and seasoning. Once it starts to boil turn off fire.</li><li>Clean fish and rub with salt. Heat enough oil to deep fry fish until crispy.</li><li style="text-align: justify;">Just before serving, pour Tom Yam mixture over fish and garnish with chopped ginger flower and coriander.</li></ul>Your done!<br /><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-42154652674372072742009-05-25T13:14:00.004+08:002009-05-25T13:49:02.155+08:00The Healthy Way Of Eating Fruits<div style="text-align: justify;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrpGJ9wTFx1eKI1zJeDISsyMN_exP88LwSEcwLqinaUHTBhH959BHdhCYFt1Wv-xjWp6sf6UCSb7ZL6_qnkzFQQOD1NfDO4qT-zKLEq7gAer9_qK5birQucFHY7VmTP1Z9eyv7EMyWYnI/s1600-h/fruits.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 156px; height: 137px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhrpGJ9wTFx1eKI1zJeDISsyMN_exP88LwSEcwLqinaUHTBhH959BHdhCYFt1Wv-xjWp6sf6UCSb7ZL6_qnkzFQQOD1NfDO4qT-zKLEq7gAer9_qK5birQucFHY7VmTP1Z9eyv7EMyWYnI/s320/fruits.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5339634222606432898" border="0" /></a>We all think that eating means simply buying fruits, cutting it and just popping into our mouths. You will be much more benefited if you know how to eat!<br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">The correct way of eating fruits</span><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">Fruits should be take in empty stomach, not as a deserted meal as is often done. If you eat fruit like that it will also sere a major role to detoxify your system, supplying with a great deal of energy for weight loss and other life activities.<br /></div><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Fruits is the most important food</span><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Lets say you eat 2 slices of bread and then a slice of fruit. As fruits digest faster than bread, the slice of fruits digest quickly and ready to go straight through the stomach into the intestines, but its passage is blocked by the bread which takes longer to digest.</div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">In the meantime the whole meal ferments and turns to acid. Consequently when fruits, come into contact with the food in the stomach and digestive juices, the entire mass of food begins to spoil. So it is better to eat fruits in empty stomach or before your meal!.<br /></div><br />You have heard people complaining:<br /><ul><li>every time i eat watermelon i burp</li><li>when i eat durian my stomach bloats up</li><li>when i eat banana i feel like running to toilet, etc.</li></ul><div style="text-align: justify;">Actually this all will not arise if you eat the fruits in empty stomach. The fruits mixes with the putrefying other food and produces gas and hence bloat!<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Graying hair, balding and nervous outburst, dark circles under the eyes - all this will not happen if you take fruits in empty stomach<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">It is incorrectly presumes that some fruits like orange and lemon are acidic and will enhance acidity in the stomach. Research however shows that all fruits become alkaline in our body.<br /></div><br />When you need to drink fruit juice, drink only fresh fruit juices, NOT from the cans.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Don't drink juices that has been heated up. Don't eat cooked fruits because you don't get nutrients at all.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">So stop making "durian porridge" if you want nutrients. Cooking fruits destroys all the vitamins. Eating the pulp or the whole fruit is far better than drinking the juice as the fiber is good for you.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">If you drink the juice drink mouthful by mouthful slowly, because you must let it mix with your saliva before swallowing it.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">A 3-day "fruit fast" is a very simple and very effective way to cleanse and de-toxify your body.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Just eat fruits and drink fruits juice throughout the 3 days and you will be surprised when your friends tell you how radiant you look!<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">During the "fruit fast" you can eat different fruits at different times, although occasionally mixed fruit salad would also be permissible and more interesting.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">If you have mastered the correct way of eating fruits you have the secret of beauty, longevity, health, energy, happiness and normal weight.<br /></div><br />Wishing you all a healthy life.<br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-72289340309628445752009-05-20T15:55:00.003+08:002009-05-20T16:19:22.519+08:00Grudge Between Husband and Wife<div style="text-align: justify;"> <span style="font-style: italic;">This is an article for all the single, married, divorced, widowed individuals, who take life for granted. Please read this story until the end, it is such an eye opener for your action in the future...</span><span style="font-style: italic;"><br /><br />I am totally speechless, this story brought tears to my eyes as I read through each line eager to know what would happen next. It truly showed the devastating power of grudges and anger! </span><br /><br />Just two years after our marriage, hubby brought up the idea of asking mother to move from the rural hometown and spend her remaining years with us. Hubby's father passed away while he was still very young. Mother endured much hardship and struggled all on her own to provide for him, see him through to a university degree. You could say that she suffered a great deal and did everything you could expect of a woman to bring hubby to where he is today.<br /><br />I immediately agreed and started packing the spare room, which has a balcony facing the South to let her enjoy the sunshine and plant greenery. Hubby stood in the bright room, and suddenly just picked me up and started spinning round and round. As I begged him to put me down, he said: "Lets go fetch mother." Hubby is tall and big sized and I love to test on his chest and enjoy the feeling that he could pick me up at any moment put the tiny me into his pockets.</div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Whenever we have an argument and both refuses to back down, he would pick me up and spin me over his head continuously until I surrender and beg for mercy. I became addicted to this kind of panic-joy feeling.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Mother brought along her countryside habits and lifestyle with her. For example; I am so used to buying flowers to decorate the living room, she could not stand it and would comment: "I do not know how you young people spend your money, why do you buy flowers for? You also can't eat flowers!" I smiled and said: "Mum, with flowers in the house, our mood will also become better." Mother continues to grumble away, and hubby smiled: "Mum, this is a city-people's habit; slowly you will get use to it."<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Mother stopped saying anything. But every time thereafter, whenever came home with flowers, she would ask me how much it costs. I told her and she would shake her head and express displeasure. Sometimes, when I come home with lots of shopping bags, she would ask each and every item how much they cost, I would tell her honestly and she would get even more upset about it. Hubby playfully pinched my nose and said: "You little fool, just don't tell her the full price of everything would solve it."<br /></div><br />There begins the friction to our otherwise happy lifestyle.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Mother hates it most when hubby wakes up early to prepare the breakfast. In your view, how could the man of the house cook for the wife? At the breakfast table, mother facial expression is always like the dark clouds before a thunderstorm and I would pretend not to notice. She would use her chopsticks and make a lot of noise with it as her silent protest.</div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">As I am a dance teacher in the Children's Palace and am exhausted from along day of dancing around, I do not wish to give up the luxury of that additional few minutes in the comfort of my bed and hence I turned a deaf ear to all the protest mother makes. From time to time, mother would help out with some housework, but soon her help created additional work for me. For example: she would keep all kinds of plastic bags accumulating them so that she sell them later on, and resulted in our house being filled with all the trash bags; she would scrimp on dish washing detergent when helping to wash the dishes and so as not to hurt her feelings, I would quietly wash them again.<br /><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">One day, late at night, mother saw me quietly washing the dishes, and "Bam" she slams her bedroom door and cried very loudly in her room. Hubby was placed in a difficult position, and after that, he did not speak to me for that entire night. I pretended to be a spoilt child, tried acting cute, but he totally ignored me.... I got mad and asked him: "What did I do wrong?" Hubby stared at me and said: "Can't you just give in to her once? We couldn't possibly die eating from a bowl however unclean it is, right?" After that incident, for a long period of time, mother did not speak to me and you can feel that there is a very awkward feeling hanging in the house. During that period of cold war, hubby was caught in dilemma as to who to please.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">In order to stop her son from having to prepare breakfast, mother took on the "all important" task of preparing breakfast without any prompting. At the breakfast table, mother would look at hubby happily eating his breakfast and cast that reprimanding stare at me for having failed to perform my duty as a wife. To avoid the embarrassing breakfast situation, I resorted to buying my own breakfast on my way to work. That night, while in bed, hubby was a little upset and asked me: "LD, is it because you think that mum's cooking is not clean that's why you chose not to eat at home?" He then turned his back on me and left me alone in tears as feeling of unfairness overwhelmed me. After some time, hubby sighed: "LD, just for me, can you have breakfast at home?" I am left with no choice but to return to the breakfast table.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">The next morning, I was having porridge prepared by mother and I felt a sudden churn in my stomach and everything inside seem to be rushing up my throat. I tried to suppress the urge to throw up but I could not. I threw down the bowl, rushed into the washroom, and vomited everything out. Just as I was catching my breath, I saw mother crying and grumbling very loudly in her dialect, hubby was standing at the washroom doorway staring at me with fire burning in his eyes.. I opened my mouth but no words came out of it, I really did not mean it.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">We had our very first big fight that day; mother took a look at us, then stood up and slowly made her way out of the house. Hubby gave me a final stare in the eye and followed mother down the stairs. For three days, hubby did not return home, not even a phone call. I was so furious, since mother arrived; I had been trying my best and putting up with her, what else do you want me to do? For no reason, I keep having the feeling to throw up and I simply have no appetite for food, coupled with all the events happening at home, I was at then low point in my life.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Finally, a colleague said: "LD, you look terrible; you should go and see a doctor." The doctor confirmed that I am pregnant.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Now it became clear to me why I threw up that fateful morning, a sense of sadness floated through that otherwise happy news. Why didn't hubby, and mother who had been through this before, thought of the possibility of this being the reason that day? At the hospital entrance, I saw my hubby standing there. It had only been three days, but he looked haggard. I had wanted to turn and leave, but one look at him and my heart soften, I couldn't resist and called out to him. He followed my voice and finally found me but he pretended that he doesn't know me; he has that disgusted look in his eyes that cut right through my heart. I told myself not to look at him anymore, and hail a cab. At that moment, I have such a strong urge inside me to shout to my hubby: "Darling, I am having your baby!" and have him lift me up and spin me around in circles of joy. What I wanted didn't happen and as I sat in the cab, my tears started rolling down. Why? Why our love couldn't even withstand the test of one fight?<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Back home, I lay on the bed thinking about my hubby, and the disgusted look in his eyes. I cried and wet the corner of the blanket. That night, sound of the drawers opening woke me up. I switched on the lights and I saw hubby with tears rolling down his face. He was removing the money. I stared at him in silence; he ignored me, took the bank deposit book and some money and left the house. Maybe he really intends to leave me for good. What a rational man, so clear-cut in love and money matters. I gave a few dried laugh and tears starting streaming down again. The next day, I did not go to work. I wanted to clear this out and have a good talk with hubby. I reached his office and his secretary gave me a weird look and said: "Mr. Tan's mother had a traffic accident and is now in the hospital."<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">I stood there in shock. I rushed to the hospital and by the time I found hubby, mother had already passed away. Hubby did not look at me, his face was expressionless. I looked at mother's pale white and thin face and I couldn't control the tears in my eyes. My god, how could this happen?<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Throughout the funeral, hubby did not say a single word to me, with only the occasional disgusted stare at me. I only managed to find out brief facts about the accident from other people. That day, after mother left the house, she walked in dazed toward the bus stop, apparently intending to go back to her old house back in the countryside. As hubby ran after her, she tried to walk faster and as she tried to cross the street, a public bus came and hit her...I finally understood how much hubby must hate me, if I had not thrown up that morning, if we had not quarreled, if....In his heart, I am indirectly the killer of his mother.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Hubby moved into mother's room and came home every night with a strong liquor smell on him. And me, I am buried under the guilt and self-pity and could hardly breathe. I wanted to explain to him, tell him that we are going to have our baby soon, but each time, I saw the dead look in his eyes, all the words I have at the brink of my mouth just fell back in. I had rather he hit me real hard or give me a big and thorough scolding though none of these events happening had been my fault at all.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Many days of suffocating silence went by and as the days went by, hubby came home later and later. The deadlock between us continues, we were living together like strangers who don't know each other. I am like the dead knot in his heart.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">One day, I passed by a western restaurant, looking into the glass window, I saw hubby and a girl sitting facing each other and he very lightly brushed her hair for her, I understood what it meant. After recovering from that moment of shock, I entered the restaurant, stood in front of my hubby and stared hard at him, not a tear in my eyes. I have nothing to say to him, and there is no need to say anything. The girl looked at me, looks at hubby, stands up and wanted to go, hubby stretched out his hand and stopped her. He stared back at me, challenging me. I can only hear my slow heart beat, beating, one by one as if at the brink of death. I eventually backed down, if I had stood that any longer, I will collapse together with the baby inside me. That night, he did not come home; he had chosen to use that as a way to indicate to me: Following mother's death so did our love for each other.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">He did not come home anymore after that. Sometimes, when I returned home from work, I can tell that the cupboard had been touched - he had returned to take some of his stuff. I no longer wish to call him; the initial desire to explain everything to him vanished. I lived alone; I go for my medical checkups alone, my heart breaks again and again every time I see a guy carefully helping his wife through the physical examination. My office colleagues hinted to me to consider aborting the baby, I told them No, I will not.. I insisted on having to this baby, perhaps it is my way of repaying mother for causing her death.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">One day, I came home and I saw hubby sitting in the living room. The whole house was filled with cigarette smoke. On the coffee table, there was this piece of paper. I know what it is all about without even looking at it. In the two months plus of living alone, I have gradually learned to find peace within myself. I looked at him, removed my hat and said: "You wait a while, I will sign." He looked at me, mixed feelings in his eyes, just like mine.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">As I hang up my coat, I keep repeating to myself "You cannot cry, you cannot cry..." my eyes hurt terribly, but I refused to let tears come out from there. After I hung up my coat, hubby's eyes stared fixed at my bulging tummy. I smiled, walked over to the coffee table and pulled the paper towards me. Without even looking at what it says, I signed my name on it and pushed the paper to him. "LD, are you pregnant?" Since mother's accident, this is the first time he spoke to me. I could not control my tears any further and they fell like raindrops. I said: "Yes, but its ok, you can leave now." He did not go, in the dark, we sat, facing each other. Hubby slowly moved over me, his tears wet the blanket. In my heart, everything seems so far away, so far that even if I sprint, I could never reach them. I cannot remember how many times he repeated "sorry" to me. I had originally thought that I would forgive him, but now I can't. In the western restaurant, in front of that girl, that cold look in his eyes, I will never forget, ever. We have drawn such deep scars in each other's heart. For me, it's unintentional; for him, totally intentional. I had been waiting for this moment of reconciliation, but I realized now, what had gone past is gone forever and could not repeated.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Other than the thought of the baby inside me that would bring some warmth to my heart, I am totally cold towards him, I no longer eat anything he buys for me, I don't take any presents from him and I stopped talking to him. From the moment I signed on that piece of paper, marriage and love had vanished from my heart. Sometimes, hubby will try to come into the bedroom, but when he walks in, I will walk out to the living room. He had no choice but to sleep in mother's room. At night, from his room, I can hear light sounds of groaning, I kept quiet. This used to be his trick; last time, whenever I ignore him, he would fake illness and I will surrender and find out what is wrong with him, he would then grab me and laugh. He has forgotten that last time I cared for him and am concerned because there was love, but now, what is there between us? Hubby's groaning came on and off continuing but I continuously ignored him.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Almost everyday, he would buy something for the baby, infant products, children products and books that kids like to read. Bags and bags of it stacked inside his room till it is full. I know he is trying to use this to reach out to me, but I am no longer moved by his actions. He has no choice but to lock himself in his room and I can hear his typing away on his computer keyboard, maybe he is now addicted to web surfing but none of that matters to me anymore. It was sometime towards the end of spring in the following year, one late night, I screamed because of a sudden stomach pain, hubby came rushing into the room, its like he did not change and sleep, and had been waiting for this moment. He carried me and ran down the stairs, stopped a car, holding my hand very tightly and kept wiping the sweat off my brow, throughout the journey to the hospital. Once we reached the hospital, he carried me and hurried into the delivery suite. Lying on the back of his skinny but warmth body, a thought crossed my mind: In my lifetime, who else would love me as much as he did?<br /><br /></div><div style="text-align: justify;">He held the delivery suite door opened and watch me go in; his warm eyes caused me to manage a smile at him despite my contraction pain. Coming out of the delivery room, hubby looked at our son and me, eyes tear with joy and he kept smiling. I reached out and touched his hand. Hubby looked at me, smiling and then he slowly collapsed onto the floor. I cried out for him in pain... He smiled, but without opening that tired eyes of his... I had thought that I would never shed any tear for him, but the truth is, I have never felt a deeper pain cutting through my body at that moment. Doctor said that by the time hubby discovered he had liver cancer, it was already in terminal stage and it was a miracle that he managed to last this long. I asked the doctor when he first discovered he had cancer. Doctor said about 5 months ago and consoled me saying: "Prepare for his funeral."<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">I disregarded the nurse's objection and rushed home, I went into his room and checked his computer, and a suffocating pain hits me. Hubby's cancer was discovered 5 months ago, his groaning was real, and I had thought that...the computer showed over 200 thousand words he wrote for our son: "Son, just for you, I have persisted, to be able to take a look at you before I fall, is my biggest wish now... I know that in your life, you will have many happiness and maybe some setbacks, if only I can accompany you throughout that journey, how nice would it be. But daddy now no longer has that chance. Daddy has written inside here all the possible difficulties and problems you may encounter during your lifetime, when you meet with these problems, you can refer to daddy's suggestion....<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Son, after writing these 200 thousand words, I feel as if I have accompanied you through life journey. To be honest, daddy is very happy. Do love your mother, she has suffered, she is the one who loves you most and also the one who loves me most..." From play school to primary school, to secondary, university, to work and even in dealing with questions of love, everythingbig and small was written there.<br /><br /></div>Hubby has also written a letter for me:<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">"My dear, to marry you is my biggest happiness, forgive me for the pain I have caused you, forgive me for not telling you my illness, because I want to see you be in a joyful mood waiting for the arrival of our baby...My dear, if you cried, it means that you have forgiven me and I would smile, thank you for loving me...These presents, I'm afraid I cannot give them to our son personally, could you help me to give some of them to him every year, the dates on what to give when are all written on the packaging... "<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Going back to the hospital, hubby is still in coma. I brought our son over and place him beside him. I said: "Open your eyes and smile, I want our son to remember being in the warmth of your arms..." He struggled to open his eyes and managed a weak smile. Our son still in his arms was happily waving his tiny hands in the air. I press the button on the camera and the sound of the shutter rang through the air as tears slowly rolled down my face.... A fatal misunderstanding and the person who loves me the most in this world is gone forever..."Cruel misunderstandings one after another disrupted the blissful footsteps to our family. Our originals intend of having Mother enjoy some quiet and peaceful moments in her remaining years with us went terribly wrong as destiny's secret is finally revealed at a price, every thing became too late."........<br /></div><br />This is a true story.<br /><br />LEARNING POINT - DO NOT EVER HOLD ON TO OFFENCES!!!<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Simple humility and communication would have resolved most of the problems in that story, as well as patience.... This story has really touched my heart and life as a whole and it has stimulated a paradigm shift. Though it is very sad, it is also very refreshing to know that from today, I can consciously start to live a life free of grudge. People please let's live a life devoid of grudge. Communication is key.<br /></div><br />Take greatest care and live on.<br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-27131452172208193182009-05-17T15:10:00.014+08:002009-05-25T09:56:22.365+08:00Revive The Spark In Your Marriage!<div style="text-align: justify;"></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><div style="text-align: center;"><div style="text-align: justify;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhT72J-2Spu_bRSlFh9OH5PmLFPEUNAMiy7hI9umMJSZ8lwUWhyphenhyphenvJGGkavXRrLDZ8jMgvoTxLEMT7W9QJNaLoa5Zm_a4d54HttQS-uttGlTGSbClSWYH9zJjRmjaCsYxOa1_m0BMamlorI/s1600-h/revive+the+spark.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 161px; height: 169px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhT72J-2Spu_bRSlFh9OH5PmLFPEUNAMiy7hI9umMJSZ8lwUWhyphenhyphenvJGGkavXRrLDZ8jMgvoTxLEMT7W9QJNaLoa5Zm_a4d54HttQS-uttGlTGSbClSWYH9zJjRmjaCsYxOa1_m0BMamlorI/s320/revive+the+spark.JPG" alt="a picture" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5336690426155087330" title="Revive The Spark In Your Marriage!" border="0" /></a><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">By: Dr Anjli Doshi-Gandhi, Deputy Director-General (Policy), National Population and Family Development Board Malaysia</span><br /><blockquote><span style="font-size:85%;"><span style="font-size:85%;">Research has shown that many marriages that end in divorces can be prevented – if the couple spent more time and effort learning the easy ways to rediscover the passion and intimacy in their marriages. There is no doubt that over the years, even the most passionate of marriages can lose some fizzle, especially if a child comes into the picture. The parents may divert all their attention on the child, forgetting their spouse and their needs. This can leave a partner feeling rejected, thus creating the early ripples in a relationship. If left unnoticed, the ripple can become a big wave, drowning everything you’ve had in your marriage, leaving you with nothing at the end of the day.</span></span></blockquote></div></div></div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Slowly losing that loving feeling in your marriage? Don’t let it slide; here is how you can keep that marriage spark alive.<br /><br />Here is the thing – great relationships take work. Maintaining a healthy and happy marriage is not an easy thing. Fortunately, there are plenty of ideas to help ensure the success of your relationship. Just make sure you make the effort to try these ideas out or even add some of your own to make it personal.<span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /><br />Talk, Like You Used To</span><br />Communication breakdown is the first step to an unhappy marriage. Partners who have stopped talking to each other will eventually stop caring. Don’t let this happen to you. Talk to your partner about your personal, relational and family goals and dreams. Share those talks together to create a strong bond even after many years of marriage.<span style="font-weight: bold;"><br /><br />Go On Dates</span><br /> Don’t just centre your life around the children and your career; take some time off to enjoy each other’s company like you used to! Practise the weekly date night routine. After all, you and your spouse will need this private time to talk, share and bond. Leave the children in the care of someone you trust so you can enjoy these private moments without worrying about the children. Do something you both enjoy – whether it is a walk around the neighbourhood or even dining at your favourite restaurant.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Say “I Love You”</span><br /> Many times, these simple three words have been taken for granted. To bring the spark back in your relationship, rediscover the true meaning of love. Share with your partner the three things you love about him, and ask him to do the same for you. Learn to appreciate each other again. Or make that effort for the little things to show exactly how you feel. Slip a note in his work bag or send him a random text message while at work. <br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Stay Physical</span><br /> For marriages to work, it is important to stay attracted to one another. The first thing to do is to give your partner a passionate kiss every day to revive that spark. Make it truly sensual. Before you know it, that kiss will lead to more, leaving both of you feeling instantly recharged! <br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Go Away – Alone</span><br /> Plan weekend getaways, without the children, at least once every three months. Studies have shown that couples who take just one vacation a year will see vast improvements in their relationships. Use the vacation time to relax and revive your relationship with your partner while enjoying quality adult time. Hire a babysitter to look after your children or let them spend their time with their grandparents. Don’t feel guilty about this alone time – you definitely won’t be at ease if all you can think about are your children!</div></span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-67081982835565453482009-05-14T16:14:00.006+08:002009-05-14T16:32:33.044+08:00The Value Of Playing With Your Child<span style="font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: bold; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; color: rgb(51, 51, 102);font-family:Georgia,'Times New Roman',Times,serif;font-size:18;" ><span class="textSmall"></span></span><span style="font-size:85%;">by Teresa, The CuteKid™ Staff </span><br /><br /><strong></strong><div style="text-align: justify;">Playtime is valuable time. Children learn through play. During play children often imitate valuable adult behaviors, stretch their imagination and reinforce creativity, and feel like they have accomplished something. When you play with your child you add to these benefits by making your child feel important and valued. <br /> <br /> <span style="font-weight: bold;">As you play with your child let your child decide what to play</span>. They usually choose an activity that they are interested in. When a child decides what to play it will keep their attention longer.<br /></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">It also increases the child's feelings of self-worth. Because they feel that their <a href="http://888umi.blogspot.com/2009/04/birth-of-child-changes-lives-forever.html">parent likes</a> and is interested in the things that they do. You might get bored with the same activity but your child learns through repetition. If you are tired of it add a new dimension to the activity. Turn the tea party into cooking an entire meal. Instead of just pushing around cars build a garage and pretend to fix them. As your child gets older their interests will change as well. They might want to go outside and kick around a ball or play a game. They might want to help you cook in the kitchen or scrapbook together. Whatever your child's interests just make sure that your child chooses the activity not you.<br /><br />While you are playing focus on your child, don't let your mind wander to work, the laundry, or the dishes in the sink. Your child will realize that they don't have your complete attention and feel that they are not important enough to keep your attention. Use your imagination and get involved. Play the part that you are given.<br /><br /><a href="http://888umi.blogspot.com/2008/12/time-with-family.html">Playtime is a time for parents to relax and unwind</a>. It distresses their life and helps them focus on what is truly important, their child. Play helps parents better understand their children's desires, abilities, and developmental stage. During play a parent's nature is often revealed and they see how their child views them. While playing with my daughter one day I watched her tell her doll, "No," and put her in the corner. Then a minute later say, "I still love you."<br /><br />When your child is a little older you will find that a great time to talk is when you are involved in an activity. I love the commercial featuring a father talking to his son about drugs while playing basketball. Because you are involved in an activity that the child enjoys the <a href="http://888umi.blogspot.com/2008/11/giving-good-instruction-to-children.html">conversation is low-key</a>. Your child is more likely to listen to you and you are more likely to really listen to your child.<br /><br /> <em></em><div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Schedule some time to play with your child everyday</span>. If you don't plan playtime into your day it is easy to let the day slip away without ever really playing with your child. Consider playtime an investment in your child's future. It is during playtime that you build a bond with your child. Express to them their importance to you. And as your child grows they will continue to want to spend time with you.<br /></div> <br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.spellquizzer.com/Spelling-Software-For-Homeschoolers.htm?RefAff=HSB320">Improve Your Child's Weekly Spelling Test Score- FREE Trial</a> </span><br /></div><br /></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-60801992228683247452009-05-08T11:38:00.002+08:002009-05-08T11:43:54.288+08:00Health Tips For Mothers on Mothers Day<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZafvK_kzlab0pyjo0cMPhkguL8sQY1HkQUzbFyP0i9BG1ftSaWrYVMMxtzXnHg7_M2Ygl_CAMnfFsGQ5F-WCz3o98u4kztw8tWasRXnGPhle8DP_kz4sMiMx8w_CsVcBKsnqufvQx2_Q/s1600-h/mother+day+pic.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 113px; height: 111px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiZafvK_kzlab0pyjo0cMPhkguL8sQY1HkQUzbFyP0i9BG1ftSaWrYVMMxtzXnHg7_M2Ygl_CAMnfFsGQ5F-WCz3o98u4kztw8tWasRXnGPhle8DP_kz4sMiMx8w_CsVcBKsnqufvQx2_Q/s320/mother+day+pic.JPG" alt="a picture" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5333293655283649586" border="0" /></a>As a mother it is important that you take care of your body, and your health is no exclusion to this rule. From the way you eat, to taking the time to give yourself a break from it all; each of these factors can have a detrimental impact upon your body.<br /><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">This being said, finding the time to actually eat properly is easier said than done. With your mind 100% focused on looking after your child, finding the time to eat right can be hard. Instead it is much easier to eat on the go and to put your body on hold until later.<br /></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Yet if the Wellcome Trust is correct, making the time to focus on your health may be more important than you think.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;">In their current study which looks into the inheritance of genes in children, they believe the way you eat during pregnancy could have a direct effect upon the way your children develop when they are born.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;">From the way they look, to the characteristics they develop, the Wellcome Trust have developed the theory that even the foods you eat during pregnancy could have an influence over their eating habits as an adult. Including their ability to experience effective long lasting weight loss.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Taking statistics offered by the Heart Institute’s Canadian Cardiovascular Genetics Research Centre, they found that due to DNA methylation particular mechanisms that control weight loss in muscles can be capped making it harder for the said individual to lose weight.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;">And this capping is rooted in the belief that external environmental elements can impact upon the way genes are expressed in children.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;">So if this thesis is to be taken seriously it would mean from the moment you conceive you need to take care of your diet in order to ensure your children have the best possible start in leading a healthier lifestyle.<br />><div style="text-align: justify;">Now when this information is compared to the recent revelation that nine in ten children will be obese by 2050; the time to take action and put a stop to this statistic is now – beginning with yourself.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;">By offering your body a healthy and nutritious diet combined with regular exercise, you can directly pass on this lifestyle change to your children.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Taking charge of your health doesn’t have to be a solo act. You can get your whole family involved and can set the precedent for your children to follow for many years to come.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;">Plus to top it all, by changing your dietary habits today, your body will be able to cope with everything your children have got to throw at you: from action packed weekends playing on the park, to going for a bike ride… with a healthier, happier body you’ll always be able to keep up.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;">So make this Mother’s day one to remember… as the day you took charge of your body, toned up and achieved the body you always wanted.<br /><div style="text-align: justify;">For more information about how to offer your body a healthier route to a fitter lifestyle visits www.proactol.com<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://banners.moreniche.com/go.php?id=4216&w=154430&s=38" target="_blank"><img src="http://banners.moreniche.com/show.php?id=4216&w=154430&s=38&e=gif" alt="Proactol" border="0" width="468" height="80" /></a></div><br /></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></div></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-3359720383562178842009-05-07T13:39:00.005+08:002009-05-07T13:56:59.232+08:00A Child Abused By A Maid<div style="text-align: justify;">I can't help myself sharing this to you my friends though my heart is crying to see the video again but still i wanna share this. This happened in Singapore while the parents are away from their children and the only left behind who is supposed to "take care" of the children is the maid. This video was sent to me through email only.<br /></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='https://www.blogger.com/video.g?token=AD6v5dy6-kvbyBYQEJqjPQMks1o6SbcghgZhMyBCA-qJ6ZI89eBYBqqpoasxcta3zrY__7_h0jMpKTD_01QWHihp' class='b-hbp-video b-uploaded' frameborder='0'></iframe><br /></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5613930290308043849.post-89769432707811969182009-05-04T14:47:00.004+08:002009-05-04T15:08:12.543+08:005 Ways To Raise Unspoiled Children<div style="text-align: justify;"><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJbLq8ytDKIAwMbWE8tT4NIE2M2lUkH7NGmgPXFYB8xeP5wzTVAO2scwHx0od94_nqsZtWmWiUmo2BbVOcrf46anR0v0XYDWjSMNu9tI_J067VEDyGTR29-2YDtS9WGYiUs1a7eleZEGQ/s1600-h/child's+bank.bmp"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 123px; height: 82px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgJbLq8ytDKIAwMbWE8tT4NIE2M2lUkH7NGmgPXFYB8xeP5wzTVAO2scwHx0od94_nqsZtWmWiUmo2BbVOcrf46anR0v0XYDWjSMNu9tI_J067VEDyGTR29-2YDtS9WGYiUs1a7eleZEGQ/s320/child's+bank.bmp" alt="a picutre" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5331861781017325682" title="5 Ways To Raise Unspoiled Children" border="0" /></a>As a parent we often hear the phrase "I want this or I want that." For many parents being able to buy their children things that they want makes them feel successful. They want their children to be happy and to like them. Yet fulfilling your child's every desire ultimately does them no favors. They grow up believing that the world owes them and that they should get what they want when they want it, hence the growing amount of consumer debt in our nation. So, being a good parent what can you do to raise unspoiled children? <br /></div><br /><span id="fullpost"><br /><p><span class="style7"></span></p><div style="text-align: justify;">1. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Teach your children the difference between wants and needs. </span>Every child needs a pair of shoes, but they don't need a pair of popular $100 sneakers. There is no reason that your child needs a new toy every time you go to the store. Especially when they probably have a closet full that they don't play with at home. Shop with a list and if your children ask for something that is not on the list tell them, "Sorry, it's not on the list." Or your can tell them that if they want things they can ask for it for their birthday or Christmas.<br /><br />2. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Donate items that are not needed or played with. </span>Teaching your children that there are people less fortunate than themselves will help them realize how lucky they are. Every year go through your child's clothes and toys and donate items that aren't used anymore. My friend says that her children often pick nicer newer toys to give to those less fortunate and she lets them because it teaches them to give.<br /><br />3. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Realize that your child will compare themselves to others.</span> It is human nature to compare ourselves to others. We will always come short of some and ahead of others. Your child may want a certain toy or item or clothing because their friend has it. If the item can be justified then buy it. If not explain to your child why the purchase just isn't in the budget. Encourage your child to dream high. You may only be able to provide so much but he can work hard and achieve his dreams himself. <br /><br />4. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Teach your child to save and budget</span>. Many young adults today do not know how to save or budget their money. They have never had to deny themselves of something and now that they don't have their parent's money supply they are hurting. Teaching your child to save and budget while young is a valuable skill. Growing up, we were required to save 50% of everything we earned. This trait continued to adulthood. Give your child a clothing budget every fall and then let them do the shopping themselves. Allow a monthly allowance for activities. Once it is spent don't give your child anymore. Your child will quickly realize how expensive things are and that they will need to shop around and budget their money to make it last. <br /><br />5. <span style="font-weight: bold;">Let your child earn rewards.</span> In real life you don't receive something for nothing. Even to win the lottery you have to buy a ticket. So instead of just giving your child things let them earn it. My friend's sister who is in junior high really wanted a pair of Girbaud pants, the popular brand at the time. But they cost considerably more than other brands and her parent's couldn't justify the cost. So they reached an agreement if her sister earned certain grades she would get the pants.<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">Do you have a cute kid? 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